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I was talking to my ex-boyfriend (and my love) today and he was getting pissy. He has been for a while to me and I've been going threw depression for months. During and after my relationship with him, I talked to him about committing suicide. Now, he 说 "He's done dealing with it anymore". He's called me a 婊子, 子 the other day, too. He 说 we could be 老友记 after he broke up with me, but I don't know anymore. It's seems almost as if he hates me.

Also, this is serious, so no smart-ass comments.
 brittanyloves posted 一年多以前
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Shadowmarioking said:
Hmm...
Well, suicide is actually a very serious topic to bring up in a conversation. I mean, think about it. Suicide is practically a person taking their life out of their choice. It's their choice that they want to die. Now, sometimes people will associate suicide as a plea for attention; to be noticed 由 someone. There was a 问题 about suicide on here a couple days 以前 that a select few people thought was completely made up, so it's not a shock to see how your ex is reacting to this. Perhaps he thinks you're joking 或者 that you're too gloomy to speak to if you've talked about committing suicide. He's probably overreacting to the whole "Suicide and depression" thing. With the feelings he's 展示 to you, there is a possibility that 你 will feel worse instead of better. Anger and hate can really disrupt a peaceful environment, and in your case with your depression, anger is not something 你 want to receive, especially from someone 你 love.

I encourage 你 get better and perhaps speak with your ex about his attitude and how he needs to change it if he really cares about 你 and wants 你 to get better. If he continues to 显示 his anger, there is no point in keeping him as a friend. And, even though I realize it might be hard, perhaps 你 should 移动 on from him. If he wants to help you, he should then try to encourage some sort of happiness and joy into 你 instead of 展示 你 anger.

All beings on this planet want happiness and not suffering. I hope that 你 get through this alright and stronger than 你 were before.
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Thank you, that helped a lot
brittanyloves posted 一年多以前
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^You're welcome.
Shadowmarioking posted 一年多以前
cassie-1-2-3 said:
It's very possible that he thought 你 were trying to make him feel guilty for breaking up with you. Like 你 were trying to trick him into getting back together just to stop 你 from killing yourself.

It's a very tricky topic to talk about with someone. Especially if that someone is a large contributer to how you're feeling.

What 你 can do to fix it is to take the time pull yourself together every time before 你 try to talk to him so 你 don't come accross as desperate 或者 out of control. Tell him you're sorry, not for being depressed but for saying things that may frighten him, and ask him if he's willing to talk to 你 about it every once in a while. 你 can understand why it would make him uncomfortable, right? Depression has a depressing effect on 你 and your loved ones, unfortunately. As long as 你 显示 him that you're willing to try to feel good around him, he probably won't be so upset about it.
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Thanks for the 建议
brittanyloves posted 一年多以前
cutie611 said:
forget abt it! k maybe u cant do it then try to turn positive!! k dont do what i just 说 maybe try im already trying to deal a little prob like that abt my cuzin....
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