Peaceandlove67 Article: It's Hard Being Asexual

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I didn't intend on 写作 this originally, but I just felt like venting, so here I go. Being asexual isn't easy, but it's part of who I am. I can't exactly change that. What's hard is some people can't accept it.

I thought that I wouldn't be bullied once I was in college. I still get bullied for being asexual. It's indirectly, unlike when I was in high school. At least, I'm not getting beat up for it.

I overheard one person saying that the reason I'm asexual is that I can't get a date. I could if I wanted to. I have been asked out 由 a few people, but I turned them down. They just weren't my type. One of them didn't even like rock and roll. That's a deal breaker for me.

For the longest time, I've actually been afraid to date. When I was in high school, there was one guy who told me that I would like sex if I tried it. He then told me to meet him after school. I did not meet with him. I went straight home. I'm sure if I had met with him, he would have raped me. After opening up to some of my 老友记 here about it, Layla pointed out to me that I shouldn't let just one incident make me afraid of dating. I'm not currently looking. I'm waiting for romance to find me.

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BingoPB I'm sorry you're having a hard time, Antonia. I hope those people who make fun of you don't have any friends. They don't deserve them, especially not a wonderful friend like you. Only a few people know about me being asexual, and I think I'll keep it that way.

80smusiclover1 I agree with Kayla. Those bastards are just losers. Remember that you are very special no matter what they say about you. *Hugs*

Rubyrings They don't get it, that's all there is to it. And they don't deserve to have you around. I can't believe they assumed that just because you haven't had any dates means you "can't" get any.

Peaceandlove67 *returns hugs* Thanks, everyone.

Roldan13 Antonia, don't pay them any mind. They just don't know anything about anything. You're a great person. Remember that.

Peaceandlove67 Thank you, Jill.

ktichenor I'm so sorry that happened. Those people are just jerks! Tbh I went through some of the same things with so called friends while I was struggling to figure out what I was so I understand. Just remember you're a strong and great person and we're here for you, always. *hugs!*

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Four of Us Part V

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Shortly after releasing their new album, the members of The Devil Wants Peace got ready for their 下一个 tour. The group decided to visit with John's uncle, Bob, one day. He said, "John, I heard 你 were in a car accident a few weeks ago. Are 你 okay?" John said, "I'm fine now, Uncle Bob. It's all thanks to my band mates. I would have died out there if not for them." Uncle Bob asked, "How did 你 guys find him?" Allen said, "When he didn't 显示 up to the recording studio and didn't answer the phone, we went to his 舱, 小木屋 to see if he was okay. He wasn't there." Peter said, "That's right. As we...

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Four of Us Part IV

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Because of a busy schedule, The Devil Wants Peace was unable to record another album until 1995. Things had calmed down 由 then. John was now living on his own, in the mountains of Redshore, in a cabin. One day, during the recording of their album, Out of the Dark Ages, John had agreed to write a song with Peter and Stan. They presented the first two verses of their song to him, and they asked him to come up with a chorus and a third verse. John said, "I'll see what I can do." He went home, and he began to write a chorus. When he finished, he was excited. He 说 to himself, "I can't wait to...

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Four of Us Part III

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Later that year, John was asked to give an interview. He asked, "Do 你 want my band mates to come, too?" He was told "No, just you." He initially refused. The person on the other line reminded him that he was the front man. He said, "I don't care if I'm 耶稣 Christ himself. I'm no 更多 important than my band mates." The person on the other line asked if he would come if he was allowed to bring his band mates along. He said, "We come together 或者 not at all." During the interview, the band was asked how they all met. John said, "Peter, Allen, and I all met in high school." Allen said, "They...

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Four of Us Part II

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A few days later, Lenny called the members of The Devil Wants Peace to a meeting. He said, "Boys, I've scheduled a tour for you." John asked, "When does it start?" Lenny said, "Ten days from now." John said, "That sounds good to me. What about 你 all?" Allen said, "That's fine with me." Peter said, "Me too." Stan said, "Me three." Lenny said, "Then, it's settled." They were all excited to start touring again. At one point during the tour, John spotted his mother. He was walking on the 街, 街道 with Peter at the time. "Hide me!" John shouted. Peter looked confused. "Hide you?" He said. John said,...

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Four of Us Part I

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It was June 19, 1991. The rock band, The Devil Wants Peace, had just released their 秒 album, Peace is the Way. Not only were they celebrating that occasion, they were also celebrating John Wilde's twentieth birthday. Allen, Peter, Stan, Ben, Lenny, and John's uncle, Bob were all there. Suddenly, the phone rang. John went into the other room to answer it. "Hello?" He answered. The voice said, "Happy Birthday, John." It was his mother. John said, "I know 你 want something, Mother. The last time 你说 that to me, I was eighteen." She said, "So, you're a famous rock 星, 星级 now." He said,...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter XIV

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Surviving Against the Odds
That night, I had a dream. John Lennon paid me another visit. He said, "John, I came to warn 你 that you're still in danger." I was confused. "Danger?" I said. "What are 你 talking about?" He said, "Pastor Thomas still wants 你 dead. 你 need your mates now 更多 than ever." I said, "Okay." I woke up and was troubled. I had bunked with Stan that night. I heard him asking if I was all right, but I was fixated on my dream and couldn't respond. "John!" He shouted. I responded with "Huh?" He said, "I said, 'Are 你 all right?'" I said, "Yeah. I'm just fine. Why?" But...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter XIII

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The Interview
One day, we were asked to go to Devil's Garden for our first 问题 and 答案 interview. I was hesitant about that, because I was treated poorly in Devil's Garden. Peter asked, "Do 你 think we should do it?" I said, "I don't know. I'll have to think about it." I really didn't like the idea of facing my past. That night, I had a dream. John Lennon and my grandmother paid me a visit. We were walking in the forest behind Uncle Bob's house. I said, "John, Grandma, I don't know what to do. Should I go to Devil's Garden?" John said, "I think 你 should go. 你 have nothing to...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter XII

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On the Road
After the release of our debut album, In a Flash, we decided to start touring. We got Uncle Bob's friend, Lenny, to be our manager. When we did our first live show, it was exhilarating. I turned out to be the only one who ever performed in front of an audience, (if my mean school mates at the park in Devil's Garden counted). I wasn't sure who was 更多 nervous, Peter 或者 Stan. I told them, "If 你 want my advice, when 你 sing, focus on the people in the back. It should radiate from them to the people in the front row. If everybody's looking at 你 with a bored expression, either...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter XI

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Starting Out
After we formed our band, we decided on what to name the band. We finally settled on The Devil Wants Peace. It was ironic and shouted out to rock haters. We then decided to start recording our first album. Uncle Bob's friend, Ben, agreed to be our producer. After the recording sessions, I noticed that I was having some pain in my right side. Stan asked, "John, are 你 all right?" I said, "I'm just fine. Why?" He said, "You look like you're in pain." I said, "Yeah, I'm having a little pain in my right side. I guess it's where I fell down the stairs this morning." He said, "Look,...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter X

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Ready to Rock
One day, I was strumming on my guitar. The phone rang. Uncle Bob answered it. He then said, "John, it's for you." I answered the phone. It was Peter. He asked, "Can 你 and Allen come over?" I said, "I can. I don't know about Allen." Peter said, "If 你 can, bring your guitars. I have a surprise for you." I said, "Okay." I went over to Allen's, and he was able to come. Allen asked, "What's the occasion?" I said, "Peter 说 that he had a surprise for us." Allen said, "I like surprises." We arrived at Peter's, and there was another guy with him. I jokingly asked, "What's Frank...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter IX

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Graduation
The 下一个 day, I graduated from high school. Before the ceremony, I talked with Allen, Peter, and Liz. I asked, "Are 你 all ready?" They all said, "Yes." Peter asked, "Are 你 ready?" I said, "Ready as I'll ever be!" During the ceremony, we all made animal noises, even though we were told not to. Maybe it was immature, but Mr. Ross was just asking for it when he said, "Don't make animal noises during graduation." He should have known that's what everyone would do. During his speech, he said, "You've been waiting for this for the past seventeen years, 或者 eighteen for some of you."...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter VIII

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Sometimes 你 Have to Stand Up to Authority
One day, I was sitting in a tree. I just felt like doing it for some reason. A few 分钟 later, Allen and Peter came by. The original reason for them coming was so that Peter could 显示 me his skills on the bass. When he saw me in the tree, he asked, "What are 你 doing, mate?" I said, "Sitting in a tree." Allen asked, "Why are 你 sitting in a tree?" I said, "I just felt like it." I admit that it was quite fun, at least until a bird pooped on me. I said, "Okay, that's disgusting. I'm coming down now." Unfortunately, I slipped coming down. Allen...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter VII

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Getting Into Mischief
All too soon, it was time to start school again. Allen and I had a couple of classes together, but the one I remember, that I wish I could forget, is English class. Our teacher, Mr. Goodman, was an alcoholic. He would sneak alcohol in a 牛奶 carton and drink it behind his desk. He didn't really teach, which is why we didn't like him. The only thing Allen and I liked about this class was our friend, Peter. Peter could be best described as "no genius, but smart." He was best known for his Liverpoolian accent. The girls would describe him as "not as charming as the Beatles,...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter VI

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你 Didn't Care About Me When I Was With You. Why Do 你 Care About Me Now?
The 下一个 day, it was June 19, 1988, my seventeenth birthday. Allen and Liz picked out a card. Well, Liz picked out the card. Allen just signed it along with Liz. Allen said, "We don't know what 你 have 或者 don't have, so the card was the only option." I said, "I'm fine with that. I don't expect anything fancy." Uncle Bob then came in. He said, "I've brought 你 a present on my way home." I asked, "What is it?" He said, "Close your eyes, and don't peek." I closed my eyes. A few moments later, he said, "Okay, now, open...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter V

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Finding a Way to Unwind
Later that day, I was walking down the 街, 街道 with Allen. He did most of the talking. I mostly listened. He then said, "John, you're a little quiet. What's wrong?" I said, "Nothing." He said, "I know something's wrong." I told him about my nightmare and how it forced me to get up early. Allen said, "That's a terrible nightmare." I said, "I tell myself that I'm fine, but I'm not sure if I am." He said, "You're obviously traumatized from almost being killed." I said, "Yeah." He said, "You know what 你 need, a way to relax. Have 你 ever tried camping?" I said, "No." He...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter IV

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Why Do 你 Expect Me to Help You? Did 你 Forget What 你 Have Done to Me?
It was summer, and I was sitting outside with Allen, talking about nothing. Just then, Uncle Bob called for me to come inside. When I came in, he said, "Pastor Thomas is on the phone. He asked to speak with you." I said, "Tell him I died." Uncle Bob said, "I don't think he'd fall for that." Reluctantly, I picked up the phone. "Hello," I said. Pastor Thomas said, "Hello, John. Is that you?" I said, "Yeah. Who's to know?" He said, "I'm sorry to bother you, but I need your help. Lately, I have been having trouble keeping...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter III

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I Didn't Know We Go to the Same School
One day, I went to the local park, and I brought my 吉他 with me. I sang "Here Comes the Sun" 由 the Beatles. Then, somebody came up to me and started 唱歌 along. He had long hair like me, but he had a beard, and his hair was darker than mine. He appeared to be around my age, sixteen 或者 so. When I finished the song, I said, "You're a good singer." He said, "Thank you. You're quite good yourself." I said, "Thanks." He asked, "Did I disturb you?" I said, "Oh, no, no, no! I 爱情 it when people sing along." He smiled. After a moment of silence, he said,...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter II

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First 日 of School
It was my first 日 at Redshore High School. 圣诞节 Vacation was officially over. I was a little nervous about my new school mates, fearing that I wouldn't be accepted, 给 my treatment in Devil's Garden. The kids of Redshore were friendly to me, 或者 so it seemed. At the end of the day, some of them said, "Hey, John, slide down the rails of the staircase." I was afraid that I would hurt myself, and I initially refused. One of them said, "Come on! It'll make 你 cool." Of course, I wanted to be cool, I mean, who wouldn't? I attempted it, but I unfortunately slipped off...

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The Wilde Adventures Chapter I

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Introduction
It was my first 日 in Redshore, California. It was December 26, 1987. Because of all the abuse I was taking in Devil's Garden, I decided to live with my uncle, Bob. Uncle Bob worked at the local bar, Alien Slim. It was usually just me in the house. Uncle Bob never married, never had children, and didn't even have a girlfriend. He never had pets, either, for he was allergic. Luckily, I didn't 移动 to Redshore empty-handed. I brought my 吉他 and my extensive record collection with me. Thanks to Pastor Thomas, I no longer had my dog, Beatle. My only solace was my record collection,...