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I'm only posting this here because the 建议 spot is kinda dead and I feel I'll have 更多 luck here.

I'm gonna try to explain my situation as briefly as possible. Please 熊 with me :L I'm really in need of advice.

So, typical issue: I'm heavily infatuated with my guy friend. I've liked him for a long time now, and I can honestly say I've NEVER liked a guy as much as I like him. We hang out twice per week at a lounge, doing homework and stuff like that, because we both have time gaps between classes. I absolutely 爱情 those days; being with him is always the highlight of my 日 and I feel that we connect really well. I even went to his band's 音乐会 with a mutual friend down in another city a few weeks ago. I feel like I flirt with him a lot, but he seems to be one of those guys who doesn't really pick up on it. (He is very intelligent, don't get me wrong).

I used to always scoff at the idea of actually telling him how I feel. However, lately I've been contemplating the idea of it. I 爱情 the friendship we've developed and I'd hate to ruin it. Also... I don't think he likes me in that way. I mean, I suppose it's possible, but it hasn't been made evident and I know it's highly likely he only thinks of me as a friend. But the thing is... I still just want to tell him. I hate keeping such a big secret from him and it makes me feel like I'm being dishonest in a way. Also, I'd hate to live with the regret of "what could've been" if I would've tried. There's no guarantee that telling him will ruin the friendship, but I still am afraid to take the risk.

There are about 5 weeks left of the semester, and I don't know if we'll both have break times between classes again 下一个 semester. So that means these could be my last 5 weeks of seeing him regularly and my last opportunities to try and "take action." People say to just casually ask him to go do something like a movie 或者 a meal, but I feel that might be a little weird to ask that since we hang out regularly
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(sorry, it didn't post the rest): since we hang out regularly anyways, and he is also a very busy person in general. What do 你 guys think? Should I just tell him that I like him, being fully prepared for rejection but just taking the risk and not having to live with the regret of "what if"? 或者 is it not worth it to risk the friendship? And yes, I will give 支持 for answering...
xWiildfiire posted 一年多以前
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你 are so lucky to have breaks in between classes?!?!??!
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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And thank 你 all for your answers. I will definitely take all of this into account. So far, including 老友记 and family I've talked to, the majority have 说 to go for it lol. This information has been very helpful, so thanks again :P
xWiildfiire posted 一年多以前
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Max277 said:
Well I personally think 你 should tell him how 你 feel. If he doesn't like what 你 feel about him then he's a jerk. A movie wouldn't be a bad idea 你 should probably try it. If he ask why, tell him 你 just really wanted to see the movie and know one would come with 你 to see it. If 你 do ask him out and he says no, then he didn't really "like you" I mean it's not awkward to have feelings for a friend that 你 have known forever. I have had close 老友记 that I liked but never asked them out. But 你 should try it. It's not gonna hurt if 你 just ask him. If 你 end up do asking him out and he says no, that doesn't mean 你 guys can't still be friends. For an example I had a huge crush on this guy, one of my 老友记 found out and told him that I liked him. But that didn't ruin our friendship we had. We were still good friends. All I can tell 你 is, give it a try. If 你 only got 5 weeks to ask him I'd get on it. Because people don't wait forever. Hopefully this helpped!!! Please let me know what happens!!!
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posted 一年多以前 
zikkiforever said:
We all got to takes risks in life. Just do it. Now is all seriousness,it is better to not go what could have been. Just ease into it. If 你 hang our regularly then 你 should be comfortable around each other.

If there ain't long left of the semester,it is better to do it. Go with the moment. It won't wreck your friendship. 你 can't control feelings. Maybe get a mate in there and ask him what he thinks of you.

It will save the embarrassment if a friend finds out if he likes 你 as a friend 或者 not. He may not feel that way ,but not everybody will.

Don't ask him out on a 日期 yet. Ask him to help 你 to a review on a movie,review on a 食物 place 或者 something. Ask him for help,if it was meant to be it will become 更多 than it started out. Don't say it is a 日期 或者 that will make him nervous. If sparks fly between BOTH of 你 ,then there 你 go.

你 could even try avoiding him for a while. It may sound silly ,but he likes 你 that much he will come to 你 and ask why you're avoiding him. If he doesn't notice maybe your not as close as 你 think.

1.Ask a friend to find out.
2.Make up an occasion
3.Avoid him

If your 老友记 报道 back with bad news 移动 on it will hurt ,but it happens. I am sure 你 won't get married like people think,it never turns out a school 爱情 is your special somebody.
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posted 一年多以前 
Dreamtime said:
hold the props
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wait till the 5 weeks ends
then tell him how 你 feel
if 你 confess to him now and it ends bad "let us just be friends" you'll get your heartbroken and disappointed
and 你 may not concentrate on exams and get bad grades
so yeah
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posted 一年多以前 
LiveLoveMusic said:
1. If you're too scared to do it, just don't do it. Keep your friendship the way it is if 你 don't want to take a risk :-)

2. Ask another friend to tell him if you're the shy type like me. I did that once, actually and it worked. If you're not shy, then just ignore this...

3. Tell him how 你 feel. I think that there could be a big chance that he likes 你 too. I have a friend who's boyfriend doesn't really act like a boyfriend, but don't get me wrong, he likes her. At least try. If he doesn't like 你 back, I'm sure you'll still be friends.

4. Wait until the end of the semester. If 你 want some time to think about how you're going to tell him, this is a good thing to do.

Any one 你 pick, good luck either way.
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posted 一年多以前 
Foreve1D said:
I had the same problem!!!!! I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. I'm telling 你 right now, that if this guy is as good of a friend as he's coming across, then he'll be able to take 你 approaching him about it. I confronted my guy and no, he didn't like me back but we still remained 老友记 after that and it felt good to get it off my chest. It was like it almost never happened that awkward moment there. But why waste your time saying "What if?" and just go for it. Guys may be unpredictable, but maybe he's just 表演 like he doesn't like 你 because he thinks 你 might not like him. He may have had his 心 broken before and is just afraid. There is no harm in trying. Hope this helped!
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posted 一年多以前 
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Let me know what happens please!
Foreve1D posted 一年多以前
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Haha. If anything remarkable goes down, I'll fill 你 in :P
xWiildfiire posted 一年多以前
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Thanks that would be great! :)
Foreve1D posted 一年多以前
karolinak1999 said:
awwh thats so cute!!!!

Don't tell him, 显示 him when the time is right and 你 two are alone....lean in and 吻乐队(Kiss) him - like in the 电影院 lol!!!!! but I'm serious, if your in a moment 你 two are alone.......The other thinh 你 should look at is are 你 in his league?!......and are 你 sure he's not gay??, I'm serious ***but don't want any props!!!
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posted 一年多以前 
prussiaducky said:
I wouldn't if I were you, just keep the beautiful friendship. I wouldn't want to ever lose such a friendship. That's me though, take the risk if 你 really want to.
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posted 一年多以前 
Book-Freak said:
Well, I think 你 should tell him. If 你 feel so passionately about this (and him) 你 should tell him. It might not be easy to do (and he might not feel the same way so 你 should be prepared for that) but he might accept it you'll be closer (he may even feel the same way!).
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