Never in my wildest Delena dreams did I imagine that Damon would 吻乐队（Kiss） Elena in the Season 2 premiere. I had seen various trailers on-line, and I knew there was a big scene between Damon and Katherine coming up which didn't particularly thrill me. (The scene wasn't half as bad as I thought it would be.) But the CW (and Kevin and Julie), flaunted the D/K make-out scene so much I was apprehensive about watching 'The Return'. On one hand I was excited about it, but on the other, I was worried that DE would take a backseat to what would be 'The Damon and Katherine Show'. I've never been so happy to be wrong in my life!

I thought DE were incredible in this episode. Their scenes together were absolutely riveting to watch - emotionally charged and heart-rending, even for DE. But it left a lot of DE shippers reeling, and no wonder: we went through a whole range of emotions in the last scene alone at lightning speed: breathless anticipation/excitement followed 由 shock ('He kissed her!), followed 由 disbelief ('Did that really just happen?'), followed 由 heartbreak ('This is SO sad...') I think one of the things that struck me most about DE in this episode was how well Elena understands and knows Damon. She describes with perfect precision how he reacts to emotional turmoil in spite of his outright denial that he 'doesn't get hurt.' Elena knows better. "You don't admit that 你 get hurt. 你 get angry, and cover it up and then 你 do something stupid," words which prove to be prophetic 由 the end of the episode. But it also showed us how well Damon knows Elena; maybe even better than she knows herself:

"You're surprised I thought 你 would 吻乐队（Kiss） me back? 你 can't imagine that I would believe 你 would want to? You're the liar Elena. There is something going on between the two of us and 你 know it. And you're lying to me and you're lying to Stefan and most of all you're lying to yourself."

I thought that Elena's response to the 吻乐队（Kiss） is worthy of some attention. Although she's bewildered and slightly stunned, she's not hostile 或者 aggressive towards Damon. She doesn't slap him like she did in 1x03, raise her voice 或者 become indignant. Instead, she tries to reason with him ("You're better than this"), and when that fails to have any impact, she emphasizes how much she cares about him. "I care about you, listen to me, I care about you! I do, but...I 爱情 Stefan. Its always gonna be Stefan." She is pleading, even tearful. She couldn't have chosen anything worse to say, but she didn't mean to be hurtful, and there was no way she could have known that she was echoing the exact same words Katherine had 说 to Damon. Perhaps she even used Stefan as an excuse because that was easier than admitting the truth.

While no-one can justify Damon's actions, we still feel deeply for him because we can understand the reasons behind his actions. He's never been truly loved 由 anyone - even his obsessive 爱情 for Katherine spanning 145 years was unrequited - and he's desperate for it. When Elena can't give him the 爱情 he craves, something in him must have snapped.
While I was working on this article, I remembered a quote from Robert Pattinson I'd read in a magazine which reminded me of Damon. (Ironic 给 that Rob was talking about Edward, I know.)

"He's essentially self-hating and prone to being self-destructive. And that's a very typical thing for guys to go through - when 你 爱情 something so much that 你 just start compulsively destroying it because 你 think you're not good enough."

When Damon is hurt 由 other people, especially those he cares about and trusts, he instinctively lashes out in reckless, stupid ways. When he discovers Stefan and Elena have double-crossed him in 1x13 he force-feeds Elena his blood and threatens to turn her into a vampire. When Elena later gets kidnapped 由 Anna, he initially refuses to help Stefan 搜索 for her, telling him: "I mean this sincerely. I hope Elena dies." And after finding out that Katherine isn't in the tomb, he lets Alaric (and Elena) think he killed Isobel even though he didn't. Damon walks a fine line between his humanity and what it means to be a vampire in a way that Stefan doesn't. For someone who can switch off his humanity, feeling any emotional torment that comes with it must be deeply troubling and unwanted. When someone he cares about hurts him, the only way he knows how to deal with that pain is to hurt them in return. Rejection is one of the worst things anyone can feel, and to be rejected twice for the same reason must have been brutal.

What makes the 吻乐队（Kiss） scene (I don't know what else to call it), even 更多 heartbreaking is when Elena says: "He doesn't want to feel, he wants to be hated, it's just easier that way." It's not true; we can see from the desperate way he kisses her that all he's ever wanted is her love. The ending may well have left at least some DE shippers despondent, but if anything, 2x01 made me even 更多 excited about Delena, because it showed how much Damon needs Elena, and that she is the only person who really, truly understands him and can give him the 爱情 he needs.