"If 你 wanna know if he loves 你 so
It's in his 吻乐队（Kiss） (that's where it is)"

Cher, 'The Shoop Shoop Song'



"Does she 爱情 him, I wanna know
How can we tell if she loves him so?
(Is it in her eyes)
Oh no you'll be deceived
(Is it in her eyes)
Oh no he'll make believe
If 你 wanna know if she loves him so
It's in her kiss
(That's where it is)"

'The Shoop Shoop Song' has been playing in my head all 日 ever since I saw the 吻乐队（Kiss） in 3x19, so I thought I would adapt it slightly for DE. It's an old song that I'm not sure many DE shippers will know: link In the song, Cher sings that instead of going 由 how a guy acts 或者 looks, both of which can be unreliable, the only way 你 can truly know if he loves 你 is 由 his kiss: "If it's love, if it really is, it's there in his kiss." I think this is definitely true for Delena in 3x19.

Elena tells Stefan in the pilot that she breaks up with Matt because it wasn't "passionate". Now, if there are any Stelena/multi-shippers 阅读 this, I hope you'll forgive me for saying it but...Stelena weren't exactly super-charged with passion and excitement either.
Shortly after 3x14/15 aired, I remember coming across a 评论 on a TVD 论坛 from someone who 说 they couldn't imagine Elena being at all passionate with Damon after the Damon/Rebekah sex scene. My response? "That's because she's with the wrong guy." I don't think Stelena have had a 吻乐队（Kiss） to rival 或者 equal the one DE had in 3x19. I think the only thing that comes close to it is the Damon/Katherine 吻乐队（Kiss） in 2x01, but I wasn't emotionally engaged in it at all, so it didn't mean anything to me. Delena were absolutely phenomenal in this episode, and their 吻乐队（Kiss） was so raw, passionate and scorching, that it jumped off the screen and practically hit 你 in the face and knocked 你 out.

Were there some parallels to 3x10 in 3x19? In 3x10 "We're holding on...and letting go" (perhaps a reference to "It's right, it's just not right now"), and Damon walks away from Elena, then changes his mind, goes back and kisses her. In 3x19, the song playing during the first part of the 吻乐队（Kiss） is "Never Let Me Go" 由 Florence And The Machine, and Elena runs out of the room. Damon follows her but hangs back, then she runs back to Damon and kisses him. Before this moment, Elena is clearly struggling with her feelings for Damon. In the motel room from the intense way she's staring at him and when he's lying 下一个 to her on the bed, she's really trying to rein her feelings in. When their hands touch, that in itself is too much for her, and she gets up and leaves the room. But she can't hide 或者 fight what's in her 心 anymore, and she kisses him. She's not over-thinking it, 或者 wondering what Alaric 或者 Stefan 或者 her 老友记 will say; she's going with what's in her heart. And the resulting 吻乐队（Kiss） is one of uncontrollable, unparalleled passion made even 更多 breathtaking due to how long they've waited and how long Elena has denied herself this. When they pause for a 秒 and look at each other, and then start 接吻 again, that's when 你 know they both choose and want this. Elena's not 接吻 Damon back because she's confused 或者 is trying to figure out how she feels - like I 说 before in another of my pieces, she KNOWS how she feels about Damon. She wants him, without a doubt. If Jeremy hadn't found them at that moment, who knows what would have happened next.

I don't think Elena has been kissed 由 anyone quite like that. Not 由 Stefan. Certainly not 由 Matt. And just for the record, I don't think Elena has kissed anyone like she's kissed Damon. But when Jeremy interrupts them, Elena comes back down to earth with a bump, and here's when it gets complicated. Elena has apparently gone on this road trip on her own personal quest - to figure out if she has unresolved feelings for Damon. But when he asks her outright "Do you?" she 答案 "I don't know." Can I say here and now that I don't believe that Elena's feelings are the issue here. The real issue is: when she finally tells the truth and says yes, and wants to explore the idea of having a relationship with Damon, then what does that mean for her 给 how much she knows about him? She seen him at his best and at his worst, and that means she can't go into any relationship with him without knowing exactly what he's capable of, that he "sabotages things" and "lashes out" whenever there's a "bump in the road." That to me, is the real reason why she's so apprehensive and unsure. It's not that she doesn't know how she feels, because she absolutely does, it was in the way she kissed him, and her kisses don't lie - it's that she's unsure about HIM that's proving to be the real stumbling block. Pair her doubts with the judging panel of her closest 老友记 and relatives she knows will disapprove: Alaric, Jeremy, Caroline, possibly Bonnie - and it's little wonder that she can't acknowledge the truth yet. Asking Stefan to the decade dance in 3x20 (at Caroline's suggestion), looks 更多 and 更多 like a last-ditch attempt on Elena's part to see if she can salvage her relationship with Stefan and thus spare her the decision she knows she has to make. Personally, I am not worried about Stelena in the 下一个 episode. Stefan knows Elena is in 爱情 with Damon, Elena sure knows she's in 爱情 with Damon, even if she can't own up to it, and I would be beyond amazed if SE got back together in these circumstances. I know some 粉丝 are scared about what will happen in the finale, but I firmly believe that in order for the season and 三角形, 三角 to be complete, Elena has to at least say she loves Damon, even if she chooses to be alone. If 你 think about it, the bulk of 3 seasons has been about Elena choosing Stefan over Damon, even when they weren't together, as evidenced in 3x14. We already know she loves him, so it would be an anti-climax for the season to end with her choosing him yet again.

"It's not that she makes him a better person, and she does, but he changes her too. Damon challenges her, surprises her. He makes her 问题 her life, her beliefs. Stefan is different. His 爱情 is pure. He'll always be good for her. Damon is either the best thing for her, 或者 the worst."
(Rose)

Stefan and Stelena are appealing in that 'first love' kind of way, but if 你 look at this season objectively, 你 can see that Elena's journey has been leading to Damon, even as she's fought to remain constant to Stefan. It's inevitable that she will always 爱情 him, and that SE will always be a feature of the show, but it's Damon, not Stefan, who will have the biggest, life-enhancing impact on her. Stefan may always be 'good' for Elena, but it's Damon who will change her life forever.