No, it's not! There's no right 或者 wrong, when it comes to sex, with some rare exceptions, legally speaking. One thing doesn't rule out the other! Why should 你 deny yourself the pleasures of self-indulgence, just because your partner does everything 你 can possibly imagine only to satisfy you?! Besides, your partner won't always be around. Wait until you're alone. Then, 你 can do whatever 你 want.
