Peaceandlove67 Article: Asexual 常见问题 Blog

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Hello, everyone. Antonia here, and I decided to do a blog on 问题 I'm frequently asked about being asexual. As I mentioned in the Introduction Blog, I am asexual. I first discovered that when I was fourteen. I was bullied in school because of it. If you're not sure what asexual is, this should educate you, (I hope). Here it goes.

1. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean 你 don't date?
A: No. All asexual means is that you're not sexually attracted to anyone. Romance is totally different. Some asexuals are aromantic, but some of them are romantic. Romantically speaking, I could go either way, but I prefer males.

2. Q: Are 你 an alien?
A: No, I am not an alien. If 你 want to see aliens, watch a sci-fi film.

3. Q: Since you're not dating someone, are 你 lonely?
A: No, I'm not lonely. I have friends. Friendship can be just as rewarding as romance, if not more. Honestly, the only reason I haven't dated is I'm afraid of getting hurt. I've had good 老友记 who have been hurt in romance, and I know it could very easily happen to me.

4. Q: How do 你 know you're asexual?
A: 你 just know. That's really difficult to answer. There are different types of asexuals out there, and in the end, 你 know how 你 feel. Don't listen to anyone who tells 你 otherwise.

5. Q: Do 你 think you'll change your mind when the "right person" comes along?
A: No, I won't change my mind. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not a choice. Besides, the "right person" would understand my needs and desires.

6. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean you're repulsed 由 sex/the idea of it?
A: No. Sexual orientation and sexual desire are actually two different things. I am repulsed 由 the idea of sex, but I don't reject it entirely.

7. Q: Are 你 asexual for religious purposes?
A: No, I'm not even religious. I'm spiritual, though. Asexuality is not celibacy. Celibacy is a choice. Asexuality is not a choice.

8. Q: What is the worst part about being asexual?
A: Probably the ridicule I've faced for it.

9. Q: What is the best part about being asexual?
A: I'm not sure. I guess the fact that it makes 你 an individual.

10. Q: Does it annoy 你 when people misconstrue your being asexual?
A: Yes.

I hope 你 enjoyed this blog. There are 更多 blogs to come.

Peace and love,
-Antonia

RetroRock64, Roldan13 and 3 others like this

ktichenor Wonderful article! Bravo!

80smusiclover1 I couldn't agree more. Another job well done, buddy!

Rubyrings Yes, very well written. I'm really liking your blogs so far!

BingoPB Great job, Antonia. This is very educational. I am asexual myself. I'm glad you were available to be the first person to talk to about it.

Peaceandlove67 Thanks, everyone.

Roldan13 Great blog, Antonia.

RetroRock64 Yes. It was very educational.

Peaceandlove67 Thank you so much!

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