This 文章 was written 由 潮流粉丝俱乐部 guest contributor Trina G.


Every now and then we get into relationships that start out awesome but then dwindle into something less than perfect. While it’s perfectly normal to not be perfect, 你 have to know when it’s time to let go and 移动 on.

Sometimes people change…and sometimes they drag 你 into an endless abyss of whiney ooze and greedy goo, where 你 trudge along desperately hoping to escape the insanity. Here are 10 signs the madness won’t end and that it’s time to dump that chump.




1. He Abuses You

If a man abuses you, either physically 或者 emotionally, 你 have to dump him. Abusive men do not change (they don’t know how). Get rid of him now while 你 still can. And if 你 need help 或者 someone to talk to, the link is there for 你 24/7.




2. He Never Has Any Money

It’s one thing to work your butt off for some whip-wielding boss, earning minimum wage and never having spare cash for a romantic restaurant, at least your man is working and putting in some effort. It’s another thing if he’s asking 你 to pay his rent this 月 because he owed Smelly Lenny some funds from a bet gone sour. Ditch him.


3. He Cancels Your Dates to be With the Guys

Any time your guy spends 更多 time cancelling your dates to hang with his buddies than he does actually dating 你 it’s time to get rid of him. He’s obviously dating his buddies, not you.




4. He Texts 你 at 3AM

If every weekend you’re awoken 由 a text that reads: “Are 你 awake, babe? I’m kinda drunk and need a ride home/I’m in the mood” (in less than good grammar), it’s time to ditch him.


5. He Doesn’t Listen to You

Now, to clarify, there’s a difference between him tuning out your incessant nagging (which is normal relationship behavior) and him forgetting that your grandma is in the hospital so 你 can’t cook 晚餐 for him tonight. If your guy forgets important events, your 最喜爱的 (and least favorite) foods, your dreams, hobbies, 或者 (especially) your name…dump him.




6. He’s Unsupportive of Your Dreams

Equally as bad as forgetting your dreams is the guy who couldn’t care less about them. If 你 tell him that 你 want to be an artist and he tells 你 to do something useful with your life instead, then he’s not supportive and 你 should dump him.


7. He Flirts With Everyone

I’ll admit, sometimes flirting is a natural habit that most people don’t even realize they have. Still, if every time 你 go out he’s giving himself whiplash trying to watch a girl’s behind as she goes by, and then makes a 评论 about how hot she was, then he doesn’t respect 你 enough to keep his eyes to himself and 你 should get rid of him.




8. He’s Rude to Your Family
It’s a rare person that loves their partner’s parents. However, no matter how much your city dwelling guy can’t stand your 拖拉机 driving redneck mom and dad, he has to be nice to them. There’s absolutely no excuse for being rude to your parents, it’s disrespectful and 你 should get rid of him (or let your dad give him the boot).

9. He’s a Loafer

Did your guy stay the night one night and never leave? Have 你 been dating three months and he’s living with 你 rent free, eating all your chips and playing X-Box all 日 while you’re at work? Does he also leave the house a mess and invite his 老友记 over without telling you? If your guy is the “I just couldn’t get rid of him” guy, then 你 need to send him on a 比萨, 比萨饼 run and change the locks while he’s gone.




10. He Cheated on You

If your man cheated on 你 one night, regrets it immensely, and has felt horrible ever since, there’s nothing saying he’ll ever do it again. It is possible to 移动 past a one night stand, depending on the relationship. But, if he’s had a lover for a while, 或者 numerous affairs, then he’s a chronic cheater and you’re not going to be able to 移动 beyond that. Get rid of him.
There are plenty of guys out there who will be nice to you, so don’t waste your time on these kinds of guys. Ditch him now and be done!