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I don't want to 爱情 him... but I do.

So there's this guy in my class. We share most of our classes; he's my main competition grade-wise. We're very good friends. He has a girlfriend, and she happens to be one of my best friends. So I didn't have any romantic feels for him (let's call him John, and her Jane... I know it's so original). Then last week John and one of his 老友记 tricked me into falling for a guy who wasn't real and when I found out my 心 was just broken because I thought I was in 爱情 for the first time. They were both really sorry, and I am on the road to forgiving them both. But the thing is, John (who had pretending to be the guy I fell for via texting) 说 he had fallen for me. I told him I didn't feel anything for him, except strained friendship. But lately, I have been thinking about him in a more-than-friend way. When he compliments me 或者 says something nice to me, I smile and I feel really good. He told me he thinks I'm beautiful and smart, but he loves his girlfriend so he doesn't know what to do. And I don't know what's wrong with me! Why am I feeling romantic feelings for him when he just broke my 心 and his girlfriend (despite our friendship)would kill me if I "took" him from her. I don't want to feel this way, but I do... and I don't want to. Can anyone shed some light on my predicament; is there any 建议 你 can give me? I'm feeling conflicted and weird inside.
 fir8008 posted 一年多以前
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katecurly said:
that is complicated and well u all three have to clear their feelings and know what u feel and if jane is really your friend than she will have to understand that 你 and john like each other and ur ment to be together
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posted 一年多以前 
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Thank 你 for the advice.
fir8008 posted 一年多以前
M169 said:
First, I think it is a wonnderful thing that 你 are asking for help.

Next, I think one of the best thing 你 can do is talk to John. In a 老友记 only way. (Thats what I did when I started crushing on my Best Guy Friend) Then, it might also help to start crushing on other people (But don't force that) Check out other guys, also hanging out with Jane would be another great thing to do, to remind 你 你 don't want ot hurt her. What 你 are experincing is completely natural.

Another thing that can help is doing your 最喜爱的 hobbies and keeping yourself busy, painting, drawling, sports 写作 ect. find some 音乐 that reflects the way 你 feel (Do not ask me for that please) Also finding 音乐 in genral is helpful, it allows 你 to escape into a world of free thinking. Also 你 could write about it and post it on here as a romance story. Creating art seems to help alot of people.


I hope I helped 你 :)
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posted 一年多以前 
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Thank 你 for the advice. I should talk to John 更多 about this and I should also keep busy. Thank 你 for your insight, I appreciate it.
fir8008 posted 一年多以前
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no problem :)
M169 posted 一年多以前
beatles1fan said:
I have that same feeling with one of my guy friends. I however, know for a fact that I do not like him that way. I just think that he is interesting. If 你 honestly believe 你 like him, then 你 need to think about why 你 do. If it's because 你 have been fanticizing about him, you've probably fallen in 爱情 with the imaginary version of "John". If 你 actually do like him though, then 你 need to tell your best friend how 你 feel. It will be hard, and it might make her upset, but 你 need to do it. She should realize that be 你 telling her how 你 feel, 你 are tying to respect her feelings as well as yours. When all 说 and done though, it is up to 你 to decide what to do.
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posted 一年多以前 
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Thank 你 for the advice. 你 brought up a valid point of why I think I like him. I hadn't thought about questioning myself. Thank you, I appreciate it.
fir8008 posted 一年多以前
FearlessSinger said:
你 don't choose who 或者 when 你 fall in love. 你 just fall in 爱情 when the right person comes. And maybe "John" is the right person. Does your friend 爱情 him? 或者 does she just have a crush on him. If she isn't really in 爱情 with him she will be mad at 你 for a short period then forget about it. Tell the guy 你 爱情 him and see what happens. Don't wait. Oh, and, if "Jane" is really your friend, she will be happy for you. :) Good luck! :D
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posted 一年多以前 
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Thank 你 for the advice. I'll think about Jane's feelings for John. Thank you, I appreciate the help.
fir8008 posted 一年多以前
princessfelicia said:
你 see what 你 did there is that 你 let him get to your heart..its not a problem actually.
And dont take the past into consideration here because its done and gone...you forgived him didnt you?
However if I was 你 id give it time ok...
Let him make the first 移动 and see which one of 你 he chooses...ask him straight forward...
'it has to be ur girlfriend 或者 me..so choose' if he cant then give it time and prove to him that 你 can be better than her..If 你 REALLY 爱情 him then like do nice stuff and so on..do stuff that she wouldnt dooo ok..
But 你 say that u dont want to 爱情 him..that complicates things even further..
你 HAVE to make up your mind dear...if 你 DONT want to 爱情 him then try on getting over him..if that doesnt work then ull know that deep down, 你 DO want to 爱情 him and him to 爱情 你 back so ull have to work on that ok?

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posted 一年多以前 
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Thank 你 for the advice. I will give it time, I'm in no hurry to have my 心 broken again! The reason I don't want to 爱情 him is because he broke my heart. But I have forgiven him. And I know I have to make up my mind. Thank 你 for your wisdom, I really appreciate it.
fir8008 posted 一年多以前
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