I believe it was Alyssa in Chasing Amy who 说 it best: "I came to this on my terms. I didn't just heed what I was taught, 你 know? Men and women should be together, it's the natural way - that kind of thing. I'm not with 你 because of what family, society, life tried to instill in me from 日 one. The way the world is - how seldom 你 meet that one person who gets you... it's so rare. My parents didn't really have it. There was no example set for me in the world of male/female relationships. And to cut oneself off from finding that person - to immediately half your options 由 eliminating the possibility of finding that one person within your own gender... that just seemed stupid. So I didn't. And 由 leaving my options open, I was branded 'gay', which to me was no big deal - labels are labels, 你 know? They define what 你 do, not who 你 are, I guess. But then 你 come along. 你 - the one least likely; I mean, 你 were a guy."
So my 建议 to 你 is this: When some nosy, label-oriented person demands that 你 tell them your sexuality-- a very personal revelation, even if 你 decide to classify yourself as "straight"-- tell them that 你 are interested in falling in 爱情 with a person. Why? Because it's the truth.
Alyssa (or Kevin Smith) is right when she says that it's about finding that one person, regardless of gender, that 你 feel the most comfortable with, and who 你 care the most about. It has been 说 many times that the LGBT community isn't about gender, it's about love and that is the truest phrase that could ever be 说 on the subject.
I have been accused myself of lumping too many things under labels in this spot and elsewhere, and I own up to it. I even made a link where I asked 你 to identify your sexuality. Why? Because we feel comfortable with labels. Coming out and declaring "I'm gay!" is both a terrifying and liberating experience, because it means that we are something, and it's easier to be something clear than to be something obscure. We are comfortable with labels because they give us our identity while simultaneously dividing us from the rest of the world. And now, I'm not just talking about gay, straight, bi-- I'm talking democrat, republican, black, white, Asian, Arab, American, French, British, Canadian, girl, boy, teen, adult-- Anything that 你 choose to identify yourself as. It's good to be something, but don't forget the label that fits 你 like a glove-- Human.
"Love is 爱情 is love," 说 Paulo in link 由 Octavio Solis. It is beyond labels. It is beyond comprehension, and it is beyond the laws of physics.
It just is.
So break the societal mold: Fall in 爱情 with a person.
Reasons to Choose to Become Gay:
1.) To become rejected 由 society.
2.) To have multiple groups against myself.
3.) To raise risks of being physically harmed.
4.) To raise risks of being mentally harmed.
5.) To have less rights in the states.
6.) To risk loosing family support.
7.) To risk loosing friends.
8.) To risk loosing chances at good jobs.
9.) To get flamed for being a flamer.
10.) To be a large target for rude jokes.
11.) To be described as 动物 to others.
12.) To be talked about as things among the law.
13.) To raise my chance of being lead toward suicide.
14.) To lose my chance at a rightful marriage.
15.) To hide myself from everyone else.
WHO WOULDN'T WANT ALL THAT! (:
Who would CHOOSE this!?
Being GAY is NOT a CHOICE.
1.) To become rejected 由 society.
2.) To have multiple groups against myself.
3.) To raise risks of being physically harmed.
4.) To raise risks of being mentally harmed.
5.) To have less rights in the states.
6.) To risk loosing family support.
7.) To risk loosing friends.
8.) To risk loosing chances at good jobs.
9.) To get flamed for being a flamer.
10.) To be a large target for rude jokes.
11.) To be described as 动物 to others.
12.) To be talked about as things among the law.
13.) To raise my chance of being lead toward suicide.
14.) To lose my chance at a rightful marriage.
15.) To hide myself from everyone else.
WHO WOULDN'T WANT ALL THAT! (:
Who would CHOOSE this!?
Being GAY is NOT a CHOICE.
