I recently read an 文章 that 说 Joss Whedon is not a feminist writer because he often shows his female characters emotionally vulnerable (it was phrased in a 更多 patronising way, but that was the gist) and I didn't get it. For those who don't watch his shows he is known to 显示 ALL his characters at times like that, not just the women. He focuses heavily on loss, tragedy and overcoming adversity, and I just don't understand why in shows that have every character facing vulnerability, pain and weakness it's un-feminist that some of those characters are women. I actually think the person who wrote that is being sexist against women, because it shows the opinion that for a woman to be strong she has to give much 更多 than a man should to be strong.
There seems to be a surprisingly large amount of people who think the way to write a good feminist character is to make her perfect in every way. She should never make mistakes, never have the nerve to cry when she is suffering and never under any circumstances 爱情 her boyfriend (heaven help her if they split/he dies and she has the audacity to be sad about it). In my opinion that's not 写作 a feminist, that's 写作 a Mary-Sue. An insulting Mary-sue at that. As far as I can tell the people who think that are the type of people who think strong women are make believe. Why else would they see any sign of humanity as a character destroying fault? None of the people who say Buffy isn't really feminist because she suffers, gets passionate about her 爱人 and sometimes screws up ever seem to focus on the male characters in the 显示 who have the same faults, sometimes worse. Spike for example was completely dependant and needy in relationships, was injured and vulnerable for a fair portion of season 2 and 更多 than once mucked up his plans. Is he sexist against men? Do his faults 取消 out his triumphs? No? Why not? Because he's a man, and for some people that apparently means he's allowed faults. They make him a richer character, but when 你 give a female character the same depth it's weakness. It takes away her claim to strength.

你 tear characters down so 你 can build them back up. Watch them overcome their troubles, learn a lesson and fight back stronger. It makes a character weaker if they never go through troubles, not stronger, because if they never face real struggles what is their challenge? How are they strong? If they are never in a vulnerable position (physically 或者 emotionally) then there is nothing for them to face, so how are they 展示 their strength? Some of Buffy's most powerful moments were a response to being emotionally hurt, for example her fight scene with Angelus. If that hadn't been so heartbreaking for her it would have just been another generic vampire fight. No challenge.
Having human weakness doesn't stop a character being a good role model, it makes them a better one, who can relate to someone who never has bad times 或者 slips up? 由 表演 as if the only women who are strong are the ones who are so far removed from real humans (of either gender) 你 are basically saying to women 'if 你 have ever had anything resembling a bad day, forget it, 你 are weak' Is that a better message than 'if you've been hurt learn and come back from it stronger. Everyone falls, the strong get back up'? And why is it men are aloud faults and it's called depth but when women have them it's called sexism? When I'm watching a character, whether it's a man 或者 a woman, I want to see them at their best AND their worst. 胜利之歌 and heartbroken, at their strongest and their weakest. I don't want writers to be afraid to give their female characters the same range of faults and emotions because they're afraid making a female character seem realistic and human will be labelled sexism, and I think the people who do think having a female character 显示 the same emotional highs and lows as the men is sexist need to take an honest look at how they view strong woman. I hate watching weak damsels, but that doesn't mean I want perfect Mary-sues.

I just want to end clarifying that my issue is not someone who dislikes Joss Whedon, has problems with his work 或者 with people who do not think Buffy is a good feminist. I've heard people who feel that way explain why intelligently and in ways that make perfect sense, and while I personally disagree I felt their point was valid. This is an issue with people who think if a female character is shown having vulnerable moments, needing someone's support 或者 messing up she has 迷失 her right to be called a role model. I have never heard anyone say that about a male character.