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I'm really scared to go on a date?

I've been texting this guy; he friended me on 脸谱 then started texting me. I met him once, and I didn't really say much to him. I think he asked me on a date, so far that's what it sounds like. I have really bad anxiety, and I grew up seeing my sister in abusive relationships and it really scares me. I was always think it'd be nice to be in a relationship but once it gets close to happening, I get scared and completely shut down. I'm really scared, but I want to do this. Any advice?
 para-scence posted 一年多以前
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Catherine51197 said:
Well 1stly, my main piece of 建议 is that 你 shouldn't 日期 this guy as 你 obviously don't know him very well, but if he's in school 或者 the same nieghbourhood as 你 & 你 want to go out with him, suggest a few friendly get togethers before 你 start getting serious (friendship first policy). 2ndly, the thing to know is that if a boy asks 你 to go anywhere with him, its a date, so preferably just start hanging out at school casually before going anywhere together on weekends. Lastly, I know exactly where your coming from; I have a friend who's dad was abusive to her as a child so she's very cautious too, but just keep in mind that not all men are violent. Before 你 start the real relationship, be absolutely 100% most certainly sure that your guy knows how much your worth; that you're precious, valuable, a real person (not a sexual object) & delicate, because then he'll treat 你 right & respect 你 like he should. So be sure to keep these things in mind when choosing any guy, otherwise, 你 might end up like your sister (just be wise/careful with making these decisions) & good luck :).
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posted 一年多以前 
FLUFFYMUFFIN said:
哈哈 你 THINK he asked 你 out? haha sry...thats jest a bit funny. anyway...jest chill your not your sis but make sure this guy is nice!! have FUN thats the best way to not get nerves. And also try to think of this as jest chilling with a friend (but dont 显示 it) untill 你 fell 更多 comfortable with him.
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