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Homesickness help!

I'm an 18 年 old girl, and I just moved out of my parents house to study on the other side of my country, The Netherlands. I'm two and a half hours away from home. I was really looking 前锋, 期待 to this, but now that I'm here, all I can think of is going home. Last weekend I went home, and Sunday night I cried all the way back in the train. The thought of having to spend every week here literally makes me sick, and I cry all day. I know it's stupid to quit this study after only two weeks, but I panic at the thought of spending 更多 time here. All the people at my 大学 seem to already know each other, so I can't seem to make new friends. Does anybody have any experience with this, 或者 know what I should do? Thanks
 Eline_K posted 一年多以前
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jamtart01 said:
Hm... looks like u left ur 心 at home. Look, ur studies r important and stuff but it looks like u seriously need to go home. Maybe u can visit 首页 again and take something from 首页 that u can bring and keep with u. u will probably feel better then and perhaps be able to concentrate on ur studies. And im sure u will make new friends, it might just take time. I had a pal 移动 schools and it took her a while to find a pal too. But its worth it cos them two are now best friends! so im sure itll all work out. It had to :)
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Cinders said:
I have gone through a very similar experience. I grew up overseas, and came back to the United States for college. To make matters worse, I was going to school in Seattle, Washington, and my parents were all the way on the east coast in Washington DC.

Not only did I have to deal with the culture shock of living in America for the first time, but I had to go to a school where I knew nobody and nobody knew me. I didn't get along with either of my two roommates, and found myself calling 首页 and my 老友记 scattered across the country sometimes twice a day. I shed tears of being lonely, and I was very frustrated with the fact that I couldn't make friends, because everyone already had established their social groups and weren't interested in making new friends.

It wasn't what I expected. And I'm terrible at socializing, so it was very hard for me to expend the effort.

Three years later, I'm content with where I am. I have made a few good friends, and I understand how people here work now. I still see my parents regularly, even though my mom just moved to Tunisia. I'm going out there to see her at Christmas.

My 建议 to 你 would be to have a regular time when 你 call 首页 every night. It will give 你 something to look 前锋, 期待 to during the day. Also, look for an activity to participate in around your new area. Volunteering helps 你 meet friendly people. If you're religious, start going to the local worship places. These will help 你 find 老友记 outside of school.

Also, keep trying in your classes. Be friendly and polite with your classmates, and they might return the favor. 你 might not be best 老友记 with all of them, but 你 might be good 老友记 with a couple of them. That's what happened to me.

Hope that helps.
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