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Cinders said:
Before I answer your question, I have a few clarifying ones of my own. First, 你 dated someone 你 don't consider a close friend? Maybe the breakup made 你 feel less friendly towards him, but 你 must have been 老友记 at one time. Also, how do 你 know he's depressed? And if he is depressed, 你 don't know if the cause is spiritual 或者 not. If 你 want to help him, be there for him, in a nonjudgmental way. Listen to him 更多 than 你 talk. "Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger." - James 1:19 As for your 问题 - 你 cannot make anyone become a Christian, nor should you. In nine out of ten cases, proselytizing will only push people further away from you. All 你 can do is explain why you have faith, from your own perspective. Explain why God and Christ matters so much to you. Share your story, but don't force your choices on him. He may have seriously considered 基督教 when 你 dated. He really may have, and decided that it just genuinely was not the spiritual choice for him. That's his decision to make, not yours. If he was lying, and saying he was Christian just to 日期 you, well, that sucks, but there's nothing 你 can do about it. Except, maybe, ask him if that's what happened. But it sounds to me that 由 "not giving up" on trying to make him a Christian 你 might have pushed him away. I think your focusing your attention on the wrong goal. Instead of trying to force him into Christianity, treat him like a human being, with his own beliefs and worldviews, even if they are different from yours. Forgive him his flaws, his lying, for example, and 爱情 him nevertheless, for who he is. Not who 你 want him to be. If 你 spend your energies trying to turn a person into something he's not, trying to force someone to see the world 你 do, 你 will not only push him away, you'll burn out. Some people just don't want to be Christians. That's their choice, and 你 should respect that. Similarly, they should respect your choice to be Christian. And if he doesn't, if he treats 你 badly, then stop being his friend. 你 can forgive him for that, but 你 don't have to do that at the cost of your own self-esteem.
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