I need 建议 :(

Relationships are 更多 delicate than people think, especially at the adolescent stage.

I think that 你 should take a bit of a break. Being alone sucks, I know, but one doesn't always need someone 由 their side. Although I don't know your age, 你 must be most likely at the stage where one is supposed to build their independence. However, relationships take a part of this as well; these stages are part of Erik Erikson's stages of development. Adolescence is not just the age, but the phase: it's the fifth in Erikson's developments. What 你 grow on depends on what has happened/been done to you, and mostly on what 你 yourself will do.

Matthew has done what 你 might do next, because that has been imprinted on you. He's done it for a while, so it may become the first thought that 你 think of doing. If he really has a girlfriend and that he's close with her, maybe 你 could just become good 老友记 with him. It's as the saying goes: "If 你 爱情 something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever. If it doesn't, it was never meant to be." To add on, 你 could always think to yourself that there are plenty of other 鱼 in the sea.

I wouldn't think that he hates 你 或者 anything, considering he's asked 你 out for a long time. I don't think that 你 should aim for a dramatic difference later on. Just talk to him about what's going on, and that 你 still wish to be friends. Whatever happens, take things as they are. Trying to pry/press on further into anything sensitive and/or anything that doesn't want to be spoken of won't make things any better. Remember to respect one another's 太空 (and each other in general), and speak honestly about how 你 feel.

firstly, be his freind still, freinds r always bettr, and even if he has a gf, doesnt mean u are not allowed to talk to him, so go to the youth group, and have fun. but dont let the cat out the bag, he would already know u have broken up with ur other. but u showed him u were faithfullll when u was with someone, and he would have admired it, and would have been super proud, u didnt double up with him. so keep ur chin up. if he is a freind he will always like u. have fun tonight, hope 你 got a joke 或者 two;-]