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I'm having some troubles at home...
My problem is how it is stated above, obviously. I live with my dad and sister; he separated from my mom about five years ago.
There have been times where I consider moving to my mom's house, but I didn't think that it would change anything. The problem here is that my dad criticizes almost everything that I do, telling me that I should know how to do things when I've never been taught how in the first place. He'll often nitpick at everything that I'd do, and it doesn't help with my already low self-esteem. I know that the main thing to do here would be talk to him, but I can't; I'm terrified. I shouldn't be scared of my own father, however, there's nothing that I can do for that. I tried getting used to it for all of these years, but nothing is helping out. If he yells at me 或者 anyone else, I'll start feeling upset, 或者 as if I need to get out of the house.
If I were to talk to him anyway, pushing aside all of these feelings, I don't think that it would work out. He would keep criticizing me. For an example, let's say that I told him that I wished that my sister can do some of his own work for me; a common example in my house being folding the towels. Instead of understanding and trying to help me out, I know that he would call me lazy and to stop complaining. My sister isn't that much younger than me -- she should be able to do the things that I can, which I know that she could.
The other problem is that I feel as if I can never get a break from him. I do well in school, but lately I've been slipping. It's often common for me in the beginning of the year, but now when I get a bad mark on something, I feel massive amounts of pressure. All I think about is how he'll yell at me if he finds out, and how I should be the ones making examples for my sister. I know that this is true -- and that these are the burdens the older sibling must take -- but I wish that he could understand that it's difficult. I long for him to see the other good things that I'm capable of
There have been times where I consider moving to my mom's house, but I didn't think that it would change anything. The problem here is that my dad criticizes almost everything that I do, telling me that I should know how to do things when I've never been taught how in the first place. He'll often nitpick at everything that I'd do, and it doesn't help with my already low self-esteem. I know that the main thing to do here would be talk to him, but I can't; I'm terrified. I shouldn't be scared of my own father, however, there's nothing that I can do for that. I tried getting used to it for all of these years, but nothing is helping out. If he yells at me 或者 anyone else, I'll start feeling upset, 或者 as if I need to get out of the house.
If I were to talk to him anyway, pushing aside all of these feelings, I don't think that it would work out. He would keep criticizing me. For an example, let's say that I told him that I wished that my sister can do some of his own work for me; a common example in my house being folding the towels. Instead of understanding and trying to help me out, I know that he would call me lazy and to stop complaining. My sister isn't that much younger than me -- she should be able to do the things that I can, which I know that she could.
The other problem is that I feel as if I can never get a break from him. I do well in school, but lately I've been slipping. It's often common for me in the beginning of the year, but now when I get a bad mark on something, I feel massive amounts of pressure. All I think about is how he'll yell at me if he finds out, and how I should be the ones making examples for my sister. I know that this is true -- and that these are the burdens the older sibling must take -- but I wish that he could understand that it's difficult. I long for him to see the other good things that I'm capable of
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