Please help me, I feel like crap right know. I have a problem with my family and I need someone to help me.

I know this is a really bad idea, but is there anyway 你 could reschedule the party? Like have it another day? Even though it wouldn't be ON your actual birthday, you'd get to have your family there...

And here's another sucky idea, have your birthday party with your 老友记 and your family that comes and then plan a small get-together a few days later for the family that couldn't 显示 up. That way, the aunts, uncles, and neices that couldn't come, you'd still be able to see (even if it's just like them coming to your house for 晚餐 或者 something).

Sorry, those two crappy ideas are the only ones I could come up with. lol

Hoi,

I'm from the Netherlands too, so I understand our tradition of birthday's. I'll write this message in English, so that other fanpopusers can read it too.

I know what it's like to have people 取消 on your birthday party, and yes, that sucks. Fortunately I'm blessed with a big family, so even when some cancel, there were always still quite a lot of people. I do know people who don't have such a big family, and they have had birthday's with not a lot of visitors.

Unfortunately there's not much 你 can do about it if 你 can't chance the 日期 of your party. What 你 can do is tell the family members who are coming to your party how much 你 appreciate them coming. Another thing that 你 can do is make sure 你 always go to birthday parties of all your family members. If 你 take the time to go to their parties, maybe 下一个 年 they will remember that, and take time to come to yours.

你 say your family is very important to you. That probably means that 你 are very important to your family too. It usually works in both ways. Maybe 你 can call some of the family members who can't make it to your party and ask them if they want to stop 由 some other 日 to celebrate your birthday? I know it's not the same, but at least it's something.

Remember: 你 爱情 your family, and your family loves you!
And 由 the way; Happy Birthday!

I hope this helps you! If 你 want to talk some 更多 (maybe in dutch), just send me a message and I'll write 你 back!