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Should I stop being her friend?

So my friend seems to be to nosy always asking what I'm doing and why I have to leave on chat sometimes. Then I tell because then she gets really mad at me. She seems to high matinace. What do I do. Do I end the friendship 或者 continue. Also she doesn't like me hanging out with other girls
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anyone noticed all the 答案 are about the same lenght? x3
Chaann94 posted 一年多以前
 cheese4evah posted 一年多以前
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Chibi-Baka3 said:
Seeing 老友记 like this could be a normal thing, considering their personality. There will be some types that are clingy. She's possibly just like that because she's afraid that, once 你 meet new people, you'll forget all about her. Just reassure her that 你 wouldn't be able to forget her, but 你 really should have time with other 老友记 as well. Both of 你 need to let yourselves make a bigger friend circle.

I understand the feeling about the chatrooms, but keep being honest to her about why 你 have to leave. She shouldn't be mad about it; she can't expect 你 to stay there forever to talk to her. One of 你 has to leave at some point. And it's not like she won't talk to 你 the 下一个 day.

你 shouldn't break off ties with 老友记 because of reasons such as this, but I understand the frustration. Just talk it over with her and try to get her to understand. If she doesn't listen, then keep trying. If things get too far, however, then the choice will be yours. Sometimes decisions are easier to make when the perfect opportunity decides to arrive.
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posted 一年多以前 
Mac-kenzie said:
There is no quick answer to this question, all I can say is 你 have to really think about what this friendship means to you. Does she respect your privacy? Your friend appears clingy but maybe this is just because she is afraid of losing 你 as a friend. She needs to respect that 你 have other 老友记 too. Maybe she just feels a bit left out when your with your other 老友记 so try to include her in activities with your other friends. For example maybe 你 could have a sleepover when 你 invite a couple of 老友记 and see how she reacts to this. If all else fails maybe 你 need to sit down with her and have a 心 to heart!Good luck
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posted 一年多以前 
HyperSophz1 said:
Sounds like one of my friends. One 日 she's 表演 like my best friend 或者 somedays she hates to to the bone. If she askes 你 what your doing, give her the best answer: Playing on the computer. Something that dosnt give here to much infomation. Continue the friendship, if it gets worse tell her to stop, if she dosnt, tell 你 parents so they can help 你 或者 something. My 老友记 also dosnt like me hanging out with other girls, 你 play with who 你 wanna play with and everything should be fine in the end, 或者 talk to her and tell her how 你 feel
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posted 一年多以前 
writer67 said:
jeepers, thats not a freind its a nightmare, she has 迷失 many good 老友记 before and it looks like she scared of loosing u, but she is a friend who shiuld give u 太空 to go the toilet, to have a drink , without having to tel her what number, 或者 flavour lol. it seems she wants to keep u for herself, she is a friend but she is starting to cramp u and get n ur nerves, all friendships deserve a chance, even when it becomes controlling in a way. if she was a true mate, and wants to be freinds till u r both old n grey, she better listen to u, but she wants to be involved in all 你 do. there are many things that are private, personal space. hopefully she backs off a bit, so u can do some of ur owm thing, and those that get mad, are also mad at themselves, but u need happiness n positive energy, if u r to understand them, and this so called freindship, 或者 relationship of equals, peacefully;-]

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posted 一年多以前 
bakes2389 said:
Oh jeez....sorry to hear about a nosy friend. It happens to us all. My 建议 would be to continue being her friend. However, I would confront her as to why she needs to be so clingy and obsessive as to where 你 are, what 你 are doing, etc. And if I were you, I would not put up with her getting angry. I would talk to her about it. High maintenance people need order.....but there is a limitation as to how much order she can put on you. 你 should not have to explain every motive for your actions. That's ridiculous! And 你 can hang out with whoever 你 want to. Do not let her dictate as to who 你 are allowed to hang out with. I would politely confront that issue as well. Just talk it out. If your friend cannot respect your wishes, then she is not worth your time and energy. If she cannot cope with your wishes too, then my suggestion would be to drop her like a hot rock! A friendship is supposed to be two-sided and fun.....try to make her understand that! :)
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posted 一年多以前 
Chaann94 said:
Sounds clingy... I've been there, trust me.

你 shouldn't stop being her friend because of that, though. First of all you'd really hurt her because even though she can get really mad with you, she really, really likes you. Try to talk to her about it. Tell her 你 still want to hang out with other girls, but you'll always(sounds cliché but it works) stay her friend.

I've made the same mistake 你 did except I did before I asked anyone else so you've already done better than I did :P.
But this is what I would do and what my friend'd want me to do. I've seen this situations many times before and the clingy ones always say; "i wish u talked to me before 你 ended our friendship..." so yeah.
And if it doesn't work, still don't end your friendship. Just say "fine, but I'll still hang out with other girls".
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