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is our friendship worth it anymore??

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basically i have a 'friend' who is really stressing me out. she lies to me and argues over the slightest thing. i hate walking to school wiv her coz she makes me cry. she never listens to me and practically invites herself over to my house. the 列表 goes on but id be here forever. i just dont think i can put up wiv it any longer but i dont know what to tell her. help? is it worth it?
annabethxchase posted 一年多以前
 annabethxchase posted 一年多以前
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BabyBlud said:
It's definately worth talking about. And 你 need to be straight with her too, blunt instead of beating around the bush.
If she's a true friend, she will understand, hear 你 out and try to change for you.
Invite her round to your house for a drink and a chat and just tell her 你 value your friendship to each other, 你 don't want to loose her as a friend but what she is doing (list her mis-doings here) are making 你 very uncomfortable, 你 can't trust anything she says and without trust your friendship means nothing. Tell her she can't come around to your house whenever she feels like it, she must either be invited 或者 sort it 24hours in advance so 你 have time to say yes 或者 no depending on what your parents say.
And warn her, if she does not change her ways, and 你 find out she's been lying to you, 你 feel that the friendship means nothing to her, and you'll be better off finding new 老友记 你 can trust. Give her three chances and only three.

I'd say it's worth a try, but don't be a soft touch, you're worth a lot better then that and if you're friend can't accept that (even though you've 给 her the chance to explain her ways and ammend them instead of just ditching her) then i'm sorry to say but the friendship was a poor investment for you, and 你 are better off without her.
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posted 一年多以前 
writer67 said:
seams like 你 have an adopted sister, one 你 cant shake off at the moment. but it seams to be getting worse, telll her its time to grow up, and tell her, but be cautious,let her know that the freindship is wearing thin, and that 你 want 或者 would like to be freinds forever, but she is starting to cramp and overshadow, and become someone 你 do not like. 你 dont mind her company but back off a bit, for 你 do not want to start to hate someone whom is becoming bossy and wants to be right all the time. 你 want and deserve an equal freind, one who is able to listen not just argue. tell her 你 have some things to do on your own , better to lay the cards on the 表 than have to start avoiding her. its probaly already affecting your style and study.hopefully this freindship has come along its first hurdle , 你 value the friendship, and 你 brliev it is worth that. but as your friend she either listens and understands, 或者 你 lose your shadow. but 你 want your freind back, for this one 你 walk with has changed and 你 do not like it at all, take care, and good luck, its up to u now,chin up, let her know 你 need tyo talk, but she isnt allowed to speak until u have it out upon the table;-]

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posted 一年多以前 
neofly said:
ok well i kind have this friend whos kinda like that she askes me for 建议 i give it to hear. she always wants the truth but when i do tell her she gets mad. she always ends up falling for the wrong guy after i worned her and she is always makeing bad chioces.I say u need to talk to ur friend tell her that u dont want to hurt her 或者 aru 或者 anything u just want to be 老友记 hang out have a good time not constently be gowing threw crap. tell her how u feel even if this has to be oveer the phone for her to listen friendship is importent and u need to try and work it out
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posted 一年多以前 
sehdt said:
To be honest probably not. Dont worry though 你 are not the only one I have a similar situation. I made the mistake of telling my friend the truth of how I felt about what she is about to do so now we only communicate 由 电子邮箱 and then its me who sends one and then waits for ages before she sends back an appologetic reply. I really do not know why I bother.
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posted 一年多以前 
GoldnSnitch_96 said:
Yes. Fuck yes. Just go up to her and tell her straight.
'You're a bitch, 你 treat me like shit and I don't want anything to do with you. STFU AND GTFO' <--- say that!
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posted 一年多以前 
crystalpotato said:
I had a friend like that before. She was always mean to me and my other friends. On 日 she called me ugly during class so I looked at her and told her that her insults didn't hurt me. Then she 说 "oh really cuz last time u almost cried. So I got
up looked her in the eye with my dead serious
"I'm goona snap your neck face" and 说 if 你 really like putting people down like that then maybe u AREN'T my real friend.
(when I 说 that the guy In front of us laughed mainly because no one usually stands up to her.)

Well after that she shut up and did her work.

From then on she stopes treating me like crap.

The only reason she's mean to u in particular is cuz she feels she can walk all over 你 so just stand up to her and it'll be alright

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posted 一年多以前 
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And the only reason I stayed 老友记 with her is because i was basically her only friend
crystalpotato posted 一年多以前
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