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Is it weird that i'm afraid of bras?

Well...I kinda am afraid of bras and my sister always teases me 由 throwing them at me and I literally scream and start to run away. My mom finds it hilarious but she tries to hide her laughs and says "its a natural part of life, 你 need overcome this fear" ahh god, i really tried to overcome it but I get way too frightened at the sight of one. I think i'm afraid of them because i'm unconsciously afraid of growing up. Do 你 have any ideas of how I can overcome it? >_< I have to grow up sooner 或者 later and wear one.

I cannot go near the bra section in the department stores, I can't go in the changing room because everyone there wears one, so I have to go to the personal bathrooms. I stutter when I say "bra". It's getting annoying...I need to grow up and wear it in two years 或者 three.
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你 know, as I read 更多 of your commments, I think your fear has less to do with bras and 更多 to do with growing up in general. Which brings me to this: go see a guidance counselor. It is totally okay. 你 seem to have a fear over what is happening to 你 and your body, and 你 channel it out on bras. 你 seem to not like the change. Talking to someone about it will ease the transition. And if your guidance counselor says 你 need the help of a professional therapist, just go. There is no shame in it, 更多 girls than 你 think go for therapy during puberty. Everyone is afraid of their body when they hit puberty. EVERYONE! Even ninjas. So ease yourself into it, see a guidance counselor, and remember, it won't kill you, and what doesn't kill 你 makes 你 stronger.
misse1000 posted 一年多以前
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Well, i didn't really start puberty yet. And im pretty tall, but...yeah. Having meat on 你 chest is pretty scary to me >_< not to mention being afraid of pregnant people (all because of octo-mom >.>)
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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egyptprincess7 said:
Not at all. In fact,I found it a bit scary and a little bit weird,wearing a bra for the first time. Anyways,how should I say this,uhm try putting one on? Maybe,you'll feel used to bras if 你 wear sport bras,first. Unless...you ARE wearing one,right now. (Oh,god. I feel like a creeper. ;A; )
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posted 一年多以前 
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lol, i am not wearing one. I'm even scared of those training thingies and sports ones! DX i feel like a loser and a coward! Thanks though~ too bad I cannot go near one...I get
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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I get clammy and start to break-down when faced near one!
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
8theGreat said:
I have a similar condition. I'm scared to death of underwear and my sister does the same thing.
Try forcing yourself in to situations where 你 have to deal with them, until 你 force yourself to get used to them. Keep yourself in that sort of situation without giving up until 你 are comfortable around bras, and everything will be a-okay.
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posted 一年多以前 
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I tried to force myself too, and I told my sister to help. She threw one at my face my face when I was least and I literally fainted
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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thanks!
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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yeah, it is kinda awkward when i think about it
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
cutiepie0310 said:
First of all I have to say: Your 13 或者 older and 你 don't wear bras yet?!?
秒 of all. Seek out fear and destroy it. Conquer what has always conquered you. Once 你 do the things 你 fear, 你 will see that 你 need no longer be afraid.
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posted 一年多以前 
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Yeah, I turned thirteen this August and I didn't start growing yet =w= but I don't think i'm just afraid at this point
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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I think I have a phobia
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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Age does NOT determine how far along in pubetry 你 are
XxKeithHarkinxX posted 一年多以前
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oh ok
cutiepie0310 posted 一年多以前
misse1000 said:
I'm going to tell 你 a little story...

When I was eight, my mom told me it was time to wear my first bra...

由 the time I was your age, 13, I was in a B cup...

I am now 17 and in a D.

So I give 你 no sympathy.

And actually, not liking to talk about underwear is okay. I will not talk about it with anyone besides my mom and my local bra salesperson. Even talking about it with my bff is off limits. If she even starts I make her stop. So it is TOTALLY fine if 你 never want to talk about it with anyone besides your mother and 你 can and should tell your sister to leave 你 alone, that this is something private between 你 and your body with the assistance of a trusted female, such as your mom. So instead, 你 can talk about it with some stranger over the internet, if that makes 你 feel better.

But here's the thing, 你 have to wear one eventually. Sorry honey, the rules of being a female apply. And here's the other thing: Once 你 have boobs, 你 won't be comfortable not having a bra. A bra supports so they don't fly around and hurt while giving 你 shape and making 你 look feminine.

And let's talk about boobs for a sec:
1. Men 爱情 'em
2. 你 need them to have children one day
3. And yes, bras are a pain.

My suggestion is to ease yourself into one. And that means now, not in two 或者 three years, because 由 then, you'll need one badly and will have no clue what to do with them. 你 probably need one now just to protect yourself and don't realize it.

I would start 由 wearing a cami with the bra-like material underneath. Try wearing this as much as possible. Then, 移动 on to a nice, thin, no underwire, simple cloth, no padding bra. Then go up as 你 develope more. A good bra salesperson (if 你 go to a 《内衣少女》 shop, they will measure 你 and help 你 find a bra right for you) will help 你 do this.

However, if 你 cannot even walk into a store 或者 if your fear becomes REALLY irrational, then 你 might need to consider seeing a therapist to help 你 overcome this.

Hope this helps.
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posted 一年多以前 
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Ummm....I don't want children. And I don't really care if guys like them 或者 not >_< i don't need sympathy, i just need help on how to end this immaturity! Plus, i'm way to flat to even wear one yet.
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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Oh....
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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I started wearing a bra when your were 8!?!
klaine_forever posted 一年多以前
XxKeithHarkinxX said:
No, not at all, I didn't want to start wearing one at all,

BUT they are extremely comfortable, (half the time I forget I'm wearing one) 你 just have to get used to them, they grow on you.

They don't hurt, and they look nice. they aren't so bad once 你 start wearing one, trust me.


Start with Taring bras 或者 sports bras, and slowly 移动 to an actual bra, it might work.
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posted 一年多以前 
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Thanks, but i'm afraid of those type of bras too
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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Welll. the as 8 said, force yourself to wear one, even if 你 don't need it, you'll have to wear one sooner r ater
XxKeithHarkinxX posted 一年多以前
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Oh god please nooo DX
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
lumforever said:
Well... Uh.. I really dunno how to help.

This might sound cheesy but how about Goal setting?

Put Bra on for like 20 秒 或者 however 你 think could work for you. If 你 manage your time try a higher time. Like go from 5 minutes, to ten, then fifteen, and so on.

Good luck!
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posted 一年多以前 
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I can't even see 或者 tough one straight! >_< THANKS FOR THE ADD DUDE :D
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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Yeah, No problem ~ (:
lumforever posted 一年多以前
seffro said:
Just to see if I could I walked into victorias secret with my best poker face, purchasing a bra and panties (friend wanted the bra, somewhat relevant here) and the people at the front laughed their asses off.
Had to bite my tongue not to smirk.
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posted 一年多以前 
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wanna swap confidence? D:
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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^ I have none lol. was in iowa for the first and most likely last time. i would never see these people ever again, cant be nervous 或者 shy with nothing to lose ;3
seffro posted 一年多以前
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^ i guess so >///< 你 are quite brave...
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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^ thank 你 :3 will happily admit that. but being 《勇敢传说》 isnt always the smart choice x3 its gotten me into trouble before
seffro posted 一年多以前
dustfinger said:
I agree with misse1000. It's fine for now when 你 probably don't have anything there but sooner 或者 later something will turn up and it will hurt if 你 don't wear one.

你 should ease into it when something grows.

I honestly was afraid of bras too. I've had to wear one since the 5th grade (11-12) but i didn't actually wear one until 8th grade (14-15). I honestly don't know how i did that. Can't do that now, people would notice.

As for stores, i have no idea how to deal with that because my mom buys my bras for me.

So don't worry about it, you're young and everything will be ok. Your fear will fade away in the 下一个 couple of years.

I see that 你 don't want to look feminine (according to one of your comments) but look like yourself. Well that's different then. If 你 ever grow any, 你 could always strap them down and not have to deal with bras. I don't know 你 could always change your mind.

So remember, 你 have options
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posted 一年多以前 
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I hope so...and I hope I never grow T^T but that'll have to be an abandoned dream...
prussiaducky posted 一年多以前
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Well don't say that now. You're only 13 (right?) and things will change in certain ways.
dustfinger posted 一年多以前
ErnieHannah333 said:
I have the exact same problem! >_<
I refuse to wear one. My sister is a few years younger than me and she does.... she throws them at me too.
I used to be almost deathly afraid of growing up and stuff. It was like the thought was haunting me for two whole years. Anyway, once my sister started to grow up a bit too, I realized it was okay and I didn't need to worry at all. I still refuse to wear them, but slowly 你 will realize that it's okay to wear one because every (girl) your age is going through this too and you'll have to overcome this fear sooner 或者 later.
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DetonatorXP said:
No, its weird it your NOT afraid of bras...
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KaulitZfan said:
no not realyis it weird i like to touch the bras ?
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Bluekait said:
My dad alway told me that if 你 don't wear a bra, 你 are going to have saggy boobs which goes all the way to your knees. Now do 你 want saggy boobs that goes all the way to your knees? Cause I didn't.
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ThatGirlHayley said:
Honey, I understand what your going through. When I first tried one on, it was a bit uncomfortable, but something about it felt right. 你 definitely need to wear abra when 你 get older. Because if 你 don't wear one, your breasts won't be lifted up, they'll end up sagging down. And no one wants that. It may be hard now, but 你 have to overcome your fears in order to 移动 on in life. And also, if 你 go around not wearing a bra with certain shirts, lets say a white one, your breasts will be very easy to see, and that would be embarrassing. I know growing up is tough, but it isn't polite 或者 lady like to go around not wearing a bra. To help 你 get through this, I would say talk to your mom about it 或者 a therapist, and be serious about it. 或者 你 could try a training bra, and you've got to listen to me when I say, it's not like a bra is going to come alive and hurt you. Because that's just not possible. I hope that helps in some way (:
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