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I'm a 12 年 old girl and I think I'm gay. The thing is, I've always wanted to be a boy but nowadays I don't see myself with a boy 或者 a girl. I have never dated anyone before but I think I'm lesbian. Please help.

I know that doing one certain thing doesn't mean you're gay, but I've had this feeling for a while and I have no idea whether I'm straight 或者 lesbian 或者 bi.... Only one of my 老友记 knows.I'm scared to tell people as it could be a waste of time and I'm actually straight. But I honestly think that's extremely unlikely right now.
 crc4450 posted 一年多以前
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LinkKinuzuma13 said:
When I was the same age, I had already known about my sexuality for years. I knew something was "off" about me, so to speak. I eventually figured it out, and now I'm 更多 content with myself than I've ever been.

The best thing 你 can possibly do for yourself is this: Don't stress about it, and let things progress. The 更多 time 你 have to think about it without panicking, the better. Just calm yourself and give yourself time to think about it. The thing that helped me realize it was imagining my future with either a man 或者 woman. It felt weird to imagine myself with a guy, and ever since then I've known that I'm gay.

Imagine getting married and raising a family. Imagine the scenario once with a man, and once with a woman. Which one seems to make 你 feel happier? Does it make 你 happy to see yourself with a woman, 或者 does it make 你 happy to see yourself with a man?

I do hope this helps you, because I understand how hard it can be to not know your own sexuality.
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thanks, it really did help. great of 你 for taking the time to give such a detailed answer. i really appreciate
crc4450 posted 一年多以前
PursuingLife said:
Your being brainwashed 由 the media, my friend. Think about how a baby is made. Obviously 婴儿 can't be born without a man and a woman, and life can't thrive if 你 don't do your part.
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I think you're being brainwashed 由 the media, thinking that the world needs any 更多 people and that everybody has to be straight for others to live normal lives.
LinkKinuzuma13 posted 一年多以前
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The only person that is being brainwashed is you. Joint adoption and gay marriage are legal in most countries now, even the tiny island I come from and that's good enough for me.
crc4450 posted 一年多以前
mattwolf199 said:
I have a wonderful girlfriend right now and I can say look for what makes 你 happy and if that person is the same 或者 different gender tthen so be it. Now if 你 want to find out if your lesbian look up som lesbian girls and see if 你 like it. Then look up a straight couple and see.
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thanks
crc4450 posted 一年多以前
the-awesome-6 said:
I know what you're going through. I did too.

I have to say, just give it time. I wrote down daily life in a notebook, and if I noticed a girl 或者 boy I thought was cute, I wrote that down. After a few months it was obvious that I was bi. Honestly, 你 just have to give it some time.
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noone45231 said:
I can't believe it I'm 12 and only one friend knows I have no idea which one I am soo I'm coming out to my parent whether it's useful 或者 useless and I 哈哈 know how she feels if I ended up being gay trans bi les etc....
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