at do men want in a relationship?
Well, I'm sure that is one 问题 which would have 给 many a woman a sleepless night indeed. After all, 'men' and 'relationships' happen to be two parties which since ages, have been notorious for never having been able to get along well with each other. A whole lot of women, for years on end, have struggled to decipher the mind of a man once he's in (or on the verge of getting into) a relationship. At times, I really wonder just how many women are really able to understand what exactly it is that men want in a relationship. To be honest, (and yes, I'll be very honest throughout this article), I don't really blame them for their predicament. 'Coz although it is a globally accepted fact that Eves are the 更多 complex and complicated of the Creator's creations; the moment 你 throw in the word 'relationship', suddenly the entire scene changes, and it's the Adams who instantly turn into paranoid princes.
Now don't get me wrong. It's not that we men are phobic when it comes to commitment, 或者 for that matter, marriage. It's just that when it comes to serious relationships, we do have our fair share of fears and feelings of insecurity (which ideally, we should share with our partners, and make things all the 更多 easier).
Unfortunately, this doesn't happen all that regularly, and that is only because most of our kind are horrible communicators! So many a time, women end up perceiving our expressions, actions 或者 feelings differently (which is bad), 或者 negatively (which is even worse). That is why I feel like helping out the female community 由 providing a short sneak peak into what men want in a relationship. Read ahead, I'm sure it'll be an eye opener to some of you!
What Men Really Want in a Relationship
So what are men looking for in a relationship? Well, relationships are of different types, and naturally, the things that men look for in a relationship vary, depending on the type, level and the progression of the relationship. For example, what men want in a girlfriend is rarely the same as what men want in a wife. When a man meets a woman on a first date, rarely does he have any expectations whatsoever. If the two of them hit it off, then that first meeting normally paves the way for many subsequent dates and a period of courtship. It is during this time when the seeds of the relationship are first sown. Slowly, as the relationship grows, progresses and develops, the guy begins to develop (both knowingly as well as unknowingly) a certain amount of wants ('expectations' seems a far too heavy word to use at this stage...) towards his girl.
As the relationship grows further and prospers, the guy and the girl begin to reach a certain level of commitment. Once a couple is 'committed' towards each other, individual wants and expectations begin to materialize and take shape. As the committed couple naturally 移动 towards marriage, these wants, expectations and relationship requirements undergo a series of updations and modifications. Contrary to what some may believe, this 'evolution' of relationship wants and needs does not end with marriage. Rather it is a lifelong process and one which keeps on happening throughout the lifetime and the duration of the relationship.
Over time and as their relationship grows, a woman may get a fair idea of what her man wants. However, it is equally (if not more) important for her to understand what it is that he really needs. What her man wants may not always be what her man needs. And as mentioned earlier, with we men being naturally bad communicators, at times it is quite tough for a woman to differentiate between a 'want' and a 'need'. So here are a few tips to help 你 ladies out.
What Men Want in a Relationship - Girlfriend
What men want in a girlfriend, is usually a pretty damsel who looks hot, dresses cool, and is a whole lot of fun. They desire someone they can be comfortable with and comfortable around. They want someone who's adventurous, maybe even a prankster, someone whose idea of fun can be something as wild as bungee jumping. They prefer to have a lady who is not bogged down with the realities and pressures of everyday life. They want someone who likes to party, hang out and in general, live life in a carefree manner without worrying too much about the future.
What Men Want in a Marriage
Once a man is married (or committed), what he seeks in his partner undergoes a sea change. Also, from here onwards, the gap between 'want' and 'need' only widens, and there can be several instances when what men want in a relationship is not always what men need (at that particular point of time, that is).
What men need in a marriage (or a committed relationship) is someone who will 爱情 them inspite of the crazy beings that they are. What a man needs in a wife is a woman who cleverly understands the words that her husband doesn't say, rather than those which he does. What a man needs in a wife, is a woman who, despite not having any affection for sport whatsoever, enthusiastically cheers him on at his weekend game of football with the guys. Many a time, what a man wants in a relationship, is to feel like the knight in shining armor; the typical masculine macho male who is strong, mighty, and protective of his partner. However, what a man needs in a relationship, is a partner who is not meek and is not afraid to stand up and take over the reins when her man is low on morale, self belief 或者 plain confidence. What a man needs in a life partner is a woman who, in times of need, can boost his confidence, his self esteem and can make him feel good about himself. What a man needs is for his woman to 爱情 him from the bottom of her heart, and stand 由 him through thick and thin.
As I end this 文章 on what men want in a relationship, here is what I personally think of this subject. 'What a man wants in a relationship' is not really quite as important as 'what a man needs in a relationship'. What a man needs, is a beautiful woman who loves him unconditionally, wholeheartedly, who is the 苹果 of his eye, and who, apart from being just a girlfriend 或者 a wife, is 更多 importantly also his best buddy. (To my dearest S: What a man wants and needs in a relationship, is nothing beyond what 你 and me have...I'm so very lucky to have you...Love 你 sweetheart!)