Am I the only 1 who feels a moment of complete rejection when a trade on any of the many sites that allow trades is deleted?

And even when 你 ask them to 编辑 and 你 send a message saying 你 what them to 编辑 and discus what they want they still 删除 it as if 你 didn't say anything to them...you send it specifically as an 编辑 so they would add 或者 take off 或者 whatever...and they just say it was bad and your like "i know it was bad tht's why i sent 你 a message saying it was bad so u could tell me what u want and tht's why it was sent as a suggestion so u could change it"