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BabyBlud said:
Well i can't say much for the general public 或者 about other schools etc. But when i was in school the 'popular' crowd as you've named it, where mostly people who had all the new gadgets and clothes. The 'popular' girls in my school would always plaster themselves in make-up, dye their hair blonde and wear 粉, 粉色 and golddigger outfits and reebok/nike and all those named brands. It's true that they can be exceptionally mean, i myself have suffered under their tyranny. When i was in school they used to bully me because i was different. I didn't dye my hair, i wore the school uniform, i didn't go to school in trainers, i always had my work in on time and therefore i was labelled 'un-popular' because i made an effort until i got into my 3rd 年 when i though what's the point? However, even though i suffered under these people calling me names, pushing me down in the playground etc, i had a vast 圈, 圈子 of friends, some who were even 老友记 with them. Not all 流行的 people are mean. Anyone can be mean, in fact we all are and anyone who says they have never been mean is a liar in my eyes. A pattern i've discovered when i was in school and even now i see it when i go to work 或者 go shopping etc is that any person on their own are polite, will chat to you, help 你 out. But as soon as they're backed up 由 their 老友记 they get all 'hard-core' and act 'cool'. In my opinion it's not about how confident they are, it's about how they want to see themselves and how they want their 老友记 to see them. I'm going to tell 你 about a girl named Roxanne who was in the same math class as me and was 'popular'. She was beautiful, funny and always made time to come talk to me even with her friends. Her 老友记 used to say, right in front of me, 'why are 你 talking to her?' and a credit to Roxanne she always replied 'because i like her.' Roxanne was one of the 流行的 crowd but she was extremely nice. Another girl called Katrina who was also in the same math class was popular, and she picked and bullied me relentlessly for 3 years until one 日 i just snapped and beat her up. I'm not proud of that fact, in fact i look back on it now and think i could have done better, i could have walked away. But from that moment on Katrina never touched me, she never called me names and 你 know why? Because she was scared of me. And that broke my heart. She didn't want to bully me which was good, but she also didn't want to be my friend. Bullies are not nice. 流行的 或者 un-popular, goth, emo, prep, chav, skater whatever the label, people are people and in every single group 你 will have nice people and mean people. 你 just have to find them and make an effort to get them to know 你 better.
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