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In desperete need of help.

a freind of mine decided she was gonna leave 潮流粉丝俱乐部 forever and I felt like I loved her then I started listening to the song in the video. and so I told her I loved her...and she asked me what kind of 爱情 and I told her as a lover. and she has had her 心 broken many times, and shes willing to give 爱情 another chance because of me. and I think I 爱情 her as a freind not a lover but its too late now. I dont want to break her 心 and she 说 if it doesnt work out for us she will never 爱情 again......
 GingerStar posted 一年多以前
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Jamie86 said:
I can see why 你 might be a little desperate. Confusing feelings always make things look a lot harder. Are 你 sure you're not in 爱情 with her? I think 你 just thought that was it, because 你 were afraid of losing her as a friend and 你 wanted to 显示 her that 你 care about her. It's obvious that she has some issues herself. She has no faith in love, but wants to be loved very badly. What won't help her is faking feelings towards her. Neither one of 你 will get any happier 由 that. 你 shouldn't feel like her well-being is your sole responsibility and you're not allowed to be confused 由 feelings yourself. 你 shouldn't feel bad because 你 told her 你 loved her as a lover when 你 don't, because 你 didn't say it to make her feel bad.

What I think 你 should do, is explain everything to her. Tell her what 你 went through 你 when she 说 she'd quit 潮流粉丝俱乐部 forever. Tell her how bad so felt when 你 realised you're not in 爱情 with her and how afraid 你 were when 你 thought about dissappointing her. Tell her 你 want the best for her. 显示 her that she shouldn't have so less faith in love, because she is loved 由 你 (as a friend) and that 你 are there for her to help her with her 爱情 life. 爱情 between 老友记 (especially at your age) can be so much longer-lasting and unconditionally than a fleeting passion between lovers... The fact that 你 felt the need to ask people for help with this shows that 你 care deeply for her and her well-being. So give her what 你 can give her, namely a great friendship, support and the feeling of being loved 由 a friend.

It will be up to her from that point. If she accepts this and is happy with what 你 can give her, she is 更多 than worth your energy.
If she doesn't, her problems are deeper than what 你 can handle. Tell her that you'll be there for her when she changes her mind, but don't let her problems become yours. 你 were willing to make yourself completely vulnerable 由 telling exactly how 你 feel, and if she doesn't see 或者 appreciate that, she's not worth your friendship.

Good luck!
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posted 一年多以前 
stephmfan215 said:
oh dear this is tricky. go along with the whole 爱情 thing. if your only 老友记 on 潮流粉丝俱乐部 then im sure this 爱情 will slowly fade, for her too. just try to hang in there until she feels like she just loves 你 as a friend. I hope this works!

(ps. r u a guy 或者 a girl?)
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posted 一年多以前 
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yea are 红豆杉 a guy 或者 girl?
dearjohnlOv3r23 posted 一年多以前
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she is a girl. checked her page.
brokenheart2828 posted 一年多以前
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ok... thats interesting.....
stephmfan215 posted 一年多以前
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