So my friend, the same friend that slept with the guy I used to like while knowing I liked him, had a crush on my boyfriend (btw my boyfriend and old crush are two different people in case anyone was confused). I honestly wouldn't have been mad if it was anyone else because I just don't trust her at all. Not after what she did before. In an argument she even said me and my boyfriend are gross together and I just knew this friendship can't go anywhere. And now she claims she doesn't like him anymore but she's lying saying she slept with him before and even every one of my girl friends tell me they have, so I asked him, I told him if you did it's okay, I'm not gonna leave over something in the past and he said they didn't and I believe him. I believe him over the thousands of other people telling me this happened but the fact a friend I was so close to would try to wreck one of the only good things that happened to me this year hurts me. So my question is, is my relationship with my boyfriend worth throwing away a close friendship? Because me and my friend have had some good times together...but I love my boyfriend and I don't want to lose him either.

Well I have to approach this question as level-headed as I possibly can, because at the moment, I'm going through the same sort of thing, just from the 'friend' persective.
I think you're friend is only saying this because she misses you. My bestie keeps ditching me for her boyfriend and it's difficult to adjust too, however, if this story is made up about her and this guy, maybe she's not worth it if she's going to lie.
I guess it depends on who's telling the truth, and how long you've been friends. My bestie always talks about how she doesn't want him to get in the way of us, but he does and she doesn't care. I honestly think it's just attention seeking.
If these 'good times together' really mean that much to you, do YOU think it's worth throwing away? Do you think you'll have better times with this guy? Will your friend still be there for you if things start to crumble between you and the guy?

[Sorry if this sucked btw. I'm rubbish at giving advice]

^Bee I'm sorry you're going through that situation, you should talk to your friend about it, she'll understand. But I don't think it's because she misses me really, she kinda ditched me this year to hang out with other girls but we still remained in touch but she did say she likes him so I think that's the main reason why she said those things. But if you ask what I think, I think she's not the person I'm friends with anymore and I'm probably just holding on to memories we had with eachother, but with my boyfriend, I never felt this strongly for anyone really and I see it going somewhere so I'm leaning a bit more toward my boyfriend but I always believed you shouldn't throw away someone from your life for the bad things they do and forget all the good things that happened, so that's why I'm just really messed up right now :P It wasn't rubbish Bee I can see where you were coming from and I'm sorry again for your situation :(

I think she's just jealous that you have a boyfriend and she doesn't. That's why she got in the way the first time with the boy that you liked and now when she's saying that she slept with your boyfriend.
I don't think the matter is your boyfriend at all. The way I see it, she has the need to put people down so she can feel better about herself or maybe she just enjoy making people miserable. I don't know her but the way you describe your friendship with her reminds me of friends that I used to have and screwed me over. Some told me it was out of jealousy (which I don't get AT ALL) so maybe I'm not really objective here, but I think it must be it.
I don't think you should trust her. I mean if the story with your boyfriend was the first bad thing that happened between you two, I would advise you to try to hold on to this friendship but I feel like she's always gonna be this way around you, so maybe you should move on. Not because of your boyfriend - no matter what did or didn't happen between them - but because of the way she treats you. If she's really your friend, she wouldn't have put you through so much crap like that. :) Of course ultimately the decision is yours, this is just my point of view.
But if you're going to stay friends with her, don't break up with your boyfriend. Tell her that he's important to you and that she has to accept your relationship with him. A real friend would get that because even though she did like him at some point, it's not like they had a relationship or something real between them.

Also there's an other thing that bothers me in this story. If she's lying, I don't understand why your other friends also say that she slept with your boyfriend. You should confront them about it and ask them why they think that she did slept with him.
Sorry if my advice is crappy :p

Okay, this is messed up. I don't know, I'm not ever the kind of person to encourage someone to pick a relationship over a friendship, but that sounds exactly what your friend is doing, too. I think that she is jealous or just wants to cause trouble, because if she really has done what you said she has, then, well, her morals are kind of twisted and I don't think you should let her ruin your relationship if you really love your boyfriend.
I don't think your best friend (and I can be wrong) is who you used to know anymore. People change. God knows I've watched tens of my friends change. It's only natural, but it doesn't mean you have to endure that just because you used to be friends with this girl.
I think that the problem is between you and her, not between you and your boyfriend or her and him. So leave your boyfriend out of it, and definitely don't break up with him 'cause your friend likes him or something.
This is between you and your friend and I think you need to confront her, figure out what is true and what's not and then decide whether the friendship is worth holding onto.

Or something. What do I know? XD

Girls told you great advice and I really agree with all of her. The way you described it, I really feel like your friend might be jealous. I would really say that she's jealous because every time you have a boyfriend or a crush on a guy, I have the impression that she wants to take it away from you. Maybe as Aline said, she doesn't have a boyfriend and she wants to prove that she can and that she's attractive or something like this.
Anyway, I really think that you should move on and forget all about her, she doesn't seem like someone worth fighting for. If she was your friend, she wouldn't behave like this. I had a best friend in the past and when she went to another school, she really changed her behavior and became someone I didn't recognize, she did bad things to me... Anyway, that's different, but the point here is that people change and sometimes it's better to let them go.
However, as Aline said (once again :)), I think you should re-ask your boyfriend or ask those girls why they say this. Is it because they are on your friend's side or maybe they are jealous ?
To, conclude, I would say that if you're fine with your boyfriend and if you trust him then you should stay with him. Your friend, or at least 'you're used to be friend', you should definitely move on!

Okay, you posted on my wall about this so I'll just respond to you there:)