Now to anyone of the teensy-beensy minority that has never heard of Twilight's male protagonist, Edward Cullen, he supposedly a vampire that falls in deep "love" with a human girl named Bella.
Now I must object to this 描述 of the Edward and Bella (Edella 或者 Bedward, lol). While the relationship is described as being true love, I personally think that the relationship is any BUT deep, true love. It is, in my, along with many other fanpoppers, opinion that this relationship is extraordinarily unhealthy and codependent, and that Edward's supposed "love" is obsessive love.
Obsessive love: a form of 爱情 where one person is emotionally obsessed with another. Obsessive 爱情 can lead to dangerous consequences. Extreme obsessive 爱情 can be the cause of stalking, rape, and murder, among other things.
Now I know that Edward never raped 或者 killed Bella, but he did stalk her. And Edward is emotionally obsessed with her to the point of being emotionally abusive.
Obsessive love: Phase One: Attraction phase
-An instant attraction to romantic interest, usually occurring within the first few 分钟 of meeting.
-An immediate urge to rush into a relationship regardless of compatibility.
-Becoming "hooked on the look" of another, focusing on the person's physical characteristics while ignoring personality differences.
-Unrealistic fantasies about a relationship with a 爱情 interest, assigning "magical" qualities to an object of affection.
-The beginnings of obsessive, controlling behaviors begin to manifest.
When 你 look at the first thing it says about Phase One, Edward became attracted to Bella (or at least her scent) when he first saw her. And though, he didn't rush into the relationship (Bella pretty much did that), he did get hooked on a physical trait of Bella's-her scent. And even Twilight, he started to become overprotective and controlling of Bella.
Obsessive love: Phase Two: Anxious phase
-Unfounded thoughts of infidelity on the part of a partner and demanding accountability for normal daily activities.
-An overwhelming fear of abandonment, including baseless thoughts of a partner walking out on the relationship in favor of another person.
-The need to be in constant contact with a 爱情 interest via phone, 电子邮箱 或者 in person.
-Strong feelings of mistrust begin to emerge, causing depression, resentment and relational tension.
-The continuation and escalation of obsessive, controlling behaviors.
-Feeling the other partner doesn't and shouldn't need to contact, meet, bond and/or speak with others.
-Violent reactions (verbal and physical) directed to the loved one and/or to oneself if the controlled person starts denying the obsessive demands.
These are also some traits that Edward has. He does often have thoughts of the chance that Bella might be cheating and often tries to control her daily schedule. He also has thoughts and fears of Bella cheating on 或者 leaving him for another, particularly Jacob. And when it comes to Bella, Edward is extremely distrustful. He treats like a naive little girl and feels that Bella mustn't contact, meet, speak, 或者 bond with/to 老友记 and family as Edward screws with Bella's truck to keep her away from Jacob and in Twilight, doesn't even care about Bella warning her dad about James.
Obsessive love: Phase Three: Obsessive phase
-The onset of "tunnel vision," meaning that the relationally dependent person cannot stop thinking about a 爱情 interest and required his 或者 her constant attention.
-Neurotic, compulsive behaviors, including rapid telephone calls to 爱情 interest's place of residence 或者 workplace.
-Unfounded accusations of "cheating" due to extreme anxiety.
-"Drive-bys" around a 爱情 interest's 首页 或者 place of employment, with the goal of assuring that the person is where "he 或者 she is supposed to be."
-Physical 或者 electronic monitoring activities, following a 爱情 interest's whereabouts throughout the course of a 日 to discover daily activities.
-Extreme control tactics, including questioning a 爱情 interest's commitment to the relationship (guilt trips) with the goal of manipulating a 爱情 interest into providing 更多 attention.
Now here I see that many these traits do match up. Edward is very obsessed to the point that Bella is almost all he can think about. Now, I know he doesn't make calls to her house all the time, but 你 can see that Edward's behaviors are very compulsive. He also goes to her house 或者 wherever to check if she's where he wants her to be. And in Eclipse, he even removes the engine from her truck to keep her from Jacob and also follows her when she is going to Angela's.
Obsessive love: Phase Four: Destructive phase
-Overwhelming feelings of depression (feeling "empty" inside).
-A sudden loss of self-esteem, due to the collapse of the relationship.
-Extreme feelings of self-blame and at times, self-hatred.
-Anger, rage and a desire to seek revenge against a 爱情 interest for breaking off the relationship.
-Denial that the relationship has ended and attempting to "win a loved one back" 由 making promises "to change".
-The use of drugs, alcohol, 食物 或者 sex to "medicate" the emotional pain.
-Suicidal thoughts may manifest. Without emotional counseling, the subject is at risk of suicide.
Now this is when I must explain. Though Edward doesn't have all these traits, he definitely has at least 3 to 4 of them. In New Moon, when he left Bella, though he might not have 迷失 his self-esteem, he has become deeply depressed as for him, his life without Bella is/was a "moonless night". And I believe that had Bella broken up with Edward, he could've possibly killed her since she dumped him and also because she did know about the vampire world 或者 he would've denied it all and tried to stay with her. And when he thought Bella was dead, he became suicidal and tried to get the Volturi to kill him.
This is my rant on Edward and his obsession with Bella. Agree with me, thank you! Disagree with me, it's your opinion, but I have my opinion too.