Anyone else annoyed that people only like man-Mulan, not girly-Mulan?

Seriously, I find it almost sexist that she gets soooo much 爱情 when she dresses in drag, spits, fights guys twice her size that such a tiny woman could barely have a chance against IRL, yet no one cares about girly Mulan- 你 know, the real one who enjoys dressing up, wearing makeup, getting her hair done, is sweet, obediant but clumsy. I hate how much ignoring, dislike and even hatred girly girls get, but when a girl dresses like a guy 或者 is a tomboy (which 花木兰 isnt anyway, I dont understand why people say she is just because she disguises herself as a boy, that isnt what tomboy means) then suddenly she's a hero. But girly girls are considered boring, vapid morons. >_<