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First 日 in college ( well freshman week)(its about four 或者 five weeks in to school and it stared on the 17) I made some 老友记 in freshman week like the third day, but after a few days we stop talking and every time i look up, they are looking at me. I don't know if i did anything to them, they just dropped me, and i do not know why.

I'm upset a little because this is college and people act like they are in middle school, and also i hear everyone say 你 make the best of 老友记 in college your freshman year.

I don't know what to do 或者 how to make new friends, i feel so alone, and i cry almost every night. I can't make 老友记 with the people in my class because at my school we do learning community so people with the same major get grouped together, i'm ok if the girls i talk to and i aren't 老友记 but how do i make new ones

please help me because i really feel lonely, and its hard being away from 首页 and family and 老友记 and my boyfriend
 rose12345 posted 一年多以前
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teamsalvatore98 said:
About a 年 ago, my best friend since first grade dropped me like I was a hot potato. I stood up for her several times because she was being called ugly and nerdy 由 girls who were supposedly her friends- nowadays those are the people she hangs out with. I was so miserable because I felt like it was my fault and that I did something wrong. I tried asking if she was angry with me, but she always replied with, "No, why would 你 think that?" After a couple months, we didn't even make eye contact with each other. She turned her back on me and I was absolutely crushed- I even lashed out at my mother, who had done nothing, because she brought her up. The best thing anyone can do in a situation like that is 移动 on, which is exactly what you're trying to do. Making 老友记 isn't easy- it takes time and dedication. What 你 need to do is listen to conversations around you. If the people involved are talking about something you're interested in, 你 加入 the conversation without a 秒 thought. It can be hard, but it works out in the long run. Even if they completely reject you, it's better to have tried and failed than to not try at all. The biggest thing about making 老友记 is persistence- keep trying to find someone 你 have common interests with, but don't be annoying. I always make 老友记 由 making terrible puns; it almost always works. But 你 need to remember to be yourself, and keep your values in mind. Let's say 你 value not smoking, and your potential 老友记 are trying to offer 你 a cigarette. Friendship is all about being able to be yourself with people who are close to you. If 你 have to put on a mask in order to hang out with your 'friends' then 你 need to rethink your priorities, and remember who 你 want to be, not who your 老友记 want 你 to be.

To sum it up:

1. Persistence is key- there's absolutely no guarantee that someone is going to immediately ask 你 to be their BFF. In fact, the first time 你 try joining a conversation, they'll probably completely ignore you. But that doesn't mean 你 should give up.

2. Be yourself, and no one else- Real 老友记 will 爱情 你 no matter what 你 do 或者 believe in. It's so incredibly important that 你 remember what 你 as an individual want. If being 老友记 with someone keeps 你 from being truly happy and shining as bright as 你 should, you're in a poisonous relationship.

3. Remember that 老友记 will come and go- Nothing lasts forever, I've learned that the hard way. What matters most is that 你 keep all the memories =, not just the good ones, and learn from your past relationships and mistakes. It might take some time, but sooner 或者 later, you'll look back and thank that person for 展示 their true colors- if they hadn't, 你 probably would have ended up hurt even more.
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Thank 你 so much
rose12345 posted 一年多以前
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No problem! I really hope it works out for you, too. If all else fails, we can be 潮流粉丝俱乐部 buddies! \^-^/
teamsalvatore98 posted 一年多以前
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