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Parents, for the umpteenth time.

My parents have completely turned my life upside down.

Back in eighth grade, I was a straight A student, with a 4.0 GPA. I tested well and got 100% on all of my quizzes, and surprisingly never 迷失 any of my pens. 由 the end of the third quarter however, my grades had dropped to B- and C's. My parents eventually figured out that it was because of missing assignments. So they began the crackdown, telling me that if I didn't get my grades up that they wouldn't pay for high school and I'd be stuck in that hell hole for another year. I eventually did as they asked and got my grades back up, finishing the 年 with a 3.8 average.

The thing is, my parents lied to me. About everything. They 说 that high school would be so much better, that all of the little cliques and factions would disappear and that a whole mountain of opportunities would arrive with my freshman year. They sugarcoated it so much that I was not prepared in the slightest for what high school was really like, especially for someone like me, who is the shortest in her class, gay and introverted. My 老友记 treated me like shit that whole year. I had never felt so isolated in my life. 由 the end of freshman year, I was barely scraping 由 with mostly D's and C's. I was not prepared for that kind of change. I was sent into a whirling depression that didn't go away until summer break, and because of this I even attempted suicide in the bathroom of the school one day.

This year, as a Sophomore, it has not improved. My parents are almost constantly yelling at me for my grades, telling me that if I don't get them up that I'll be stripped of my so-called "privileges." Three of my six required classes are either D's 或者 F's because of this depression, and there are too many missing assignments in German and Geometry for me to complete at one time. It's not that I don't try, it's that I don't have the energy to. I know that I'm smart, and I know I can do it if I try my best, but this depression has really
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sucked any and all life out of me, and all of my effort with it. My parents just recently told me that they aren't going to let me go to Germany on the trip that is organized every year. Earlier, they promised me that they wouldn't take this trip away so long as I earned it. They're teling me the reason that they're taking it away is because I'm not trying. What they don't understand is, I have to try on a daily basis to keep myself from breaking down in classes and to keep myself from blowing up at my friends. All of my effort has gone towards trying to put on this mask so that I appear happy to others. All of my effort has gone towards trying to find the 来源 of my stress, which has reached unprecedented levels. I can't do both at one time. I can't concentrate, I'm always angry, irritated 或者 sad and I can't go a single 日 without my parents yelling at me for something, not even on my birthday did they let it slide, grounding me and completely canceling my party last minute, causing all of my 老友记 to ignore me for a very long time. I just need to know what to do. I'm so overwhelmed with my depression and I can't seem to find any happiness in anything, and it kills me to see other people so happy when they're in high school, leaving me to wonder just why I'm having such a hard time and what I'm doing wrong. I just don't know what to do, and the fact that my parents are berating me and calling me lazy, bitchy, moody, annoying, hypocritical and threatening to take away my already limited freedoms doesn't help me in the slightest, although they seem to think that they are doing a wonderful parenting job.
LinkKinuzuma13 posted 一年多以前
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I would talk to them
angelwings2055 posted 一年多以前
 LinkKinuzuma13 posted 一年多以前
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Catherine51197 said:
Well 你 definitely need to talk to a professional about this because it's not right that your parents are the cause for such depression & they need to know that the work is much harder, so all 你 can do is your best. I know that your parents will probably refuse 你 let 你 seek help, so don't be afraid to talk to a close trusted adult who can take 你 to appointments & is willing to cover the costs. I also understand that 你 may be scared of being judged, but don't be, because the physiologist is most certainly/definitely not going to judge 你 & if others do, then that's their problem that shouldn't get the better of 你 (they just don't know 或者 understand). Also, it's not fair that your parents lied to 你 & I would recommend 你 mention this to your teachers so they can tutor you. Just remember that life isn't all about people-pleasing.
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