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CrystalMirage said:
I've heard and read before that it's a little...awkward to speak about ex-boyfriends/ girlfriends when you're with someone else.
If you're really afraid of what he'll do, I think that 你 should talk to him about this. Don't think to yourself that it's a stupid idea 或者 that something will go wrong. In a relationship, 你 have to be able to trust the one that you're with. This doesn't just go for those who are married 或者 have been together for a long time. 你 even have trust in your friends, right?
After 你 speak to him about it, think to yourself if it's a good idea. I personally think that it would be awkward and change the subject, but if he's that insistent, why not just 显示 him? You're not with (or maybe haven't ever been -- I'm not sure) either of the guys that 你 used to like, so what should be the problem here? I suppose "jealousy" could play a part, but there really shouldn't be any of that. I would find the chances to be slim if anything.
If 你 think that it won't take 你 down the right road, then just avoid it. Change the subject and think of something else to do. Every person has the right to say no -- which is quite obvious -- but the problem is that they're either too scared to say it 或者 not sure how. 你 can say to him, "Could we do something else, please?", 或者 whatever 你 think would fit. If he's persistent and 你 still don't want to 显示 him (in contrast to what I 说 above), be a little assertive; NOT aggressive. 你 shouldn't have to be forced to do something.
Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other 问题 that 你 may have.
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