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My BFF copies everything i do, what should i do?

Ok so one of my bff's, silvia and i have been best 老友记 since like.. grade 4. Anyway we get along really well. But, she kinda gets on my nerves sometimes. She copies everything i do! I was in my school choir for 4 years before i met her, then she joins. I took an interest in drawing for a while, she becomes the best artist in the school. I become the class clown (thats a good thing at my school), she invents all these lame (yet kinda, sorta funny in a weird way) jokes. I finally share my secret 爱情 of 写作 stories/poems/songs, she claims shes had song and chapter book ideas in her head for years! I didnt mind the first couple of things, because she is quite good at them plus everyone says 'Copying is the greatest form of flattery' (or something like that..). But 写作 is my passion, it was the one thing i had left that made me.. unique and now shes gone and stolen it. What should i do?
 katlovesbtr posted 一年多以前
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Chibi-Baka3 said:
What everyone had 说 (that "copying is the greatest form of flattery) is true, but I know just how 你 feel. It was with my sister, however.

I think that your friend just wants to experiment with these things and see if she likes them too. Maybe she also just wants to do these things so that 你 can always do things together. If you're that bothered 由 it, maybe 你 should try talking to her about it. Nothing like "Jeez, what's your problem", however; it would be rude, obviously. I don't know your friend, so I think that 你 would know the best things to say.

Calm down and think things over, too. Everyone is different in their own way, even if they like something. There are authors out there who have a great passion for 写作 as well, but they're all different in ways. It's WHAT they write that makes them special, and it's also HOW. That's why there are styles of writing, along with genres. 你 can share these traits, but the both of 你 will always have different ways of writing. Always.

She may also do these things so that people can notice her the same way that they notice you. Not like a competition for popularity, per se. Think of it like...you're her role model. Don't think so much that she's stealing everything from you; that builds up anger that ends up being pent inside of you, and that's not a good thing to have. 你 could lose your temper quickly and cause a lot of damage in the future. Remember to take things slowly and patiently if you're going to talk to her about it, 或者 just let it all go if you're able to do that.

Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other 问题 你 may have.
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posted 一年多以前 
4422 said:
idk coz i have d same problem wit my cousin
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posted 一年多以前 
dreamfields said:
Tough question. For know just stick to your own unique style of writing. Everyone thinks differently so 你 can still be unique.
It may be awkward, but 你 could ask your friend why she copies 你 and tell her how it makes 你 feel.
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posted 一年多以前 
miyuchan7 said:
你 could just imply that 你 don't like the fact the she is copying you. i have a family friend who wants to copy my little sister and i. everything from fave colour to songs.
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